Guest Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 ok I am crying right now A SHOCKER let me tell you... It just never wants to work out for me no matter how good I think it feels and how good a connection we seem to have. I met this guy last week things were great spent everyday together, he was calling, texting, I was texting too on my own to show interest. I haven't heard from him in 3 days!!! I don't get it can I be so dumb to not see that he wasn't into me? Can feelings change so fast? This happens to me ALL the time.. this one felt real and right WTF???
Crono69 Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Wow, I feel the same way. I knew this girl for 2 years and then I didnt see her for the past year cause she didnt want to see me anymore. Then she calls me up 2 months later thinking I hate her and then we hang out all day. I told her I care about her and I held her hand. She didnt want to see me anymore then she deleted my #. We spent alot of time together the 1st year we met. Then after not seeing her for close to a year I message her through myspace and she sends me a friend request. We talk sending emails and I ask her to lunch but she says she would but is not in town. We still sent a couple more emails then all of a sudden no more replies...
bluetuesday Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 ok I am crying right now A SHOCKER let me tell you... It just never wants to work out for me no matter how good I think it feels and how good a connection we seem to have. I met this guy last week things were great spent everyday together, he was calling, texting, I was texting too on my own to show interest. I haven't heard from him in 3 days!!! I don't get it can I be so dumb to not see that he wasn't into me? Can feelings change so fast? This happens to me ALL the time.. this one felt real and right WTF??? girl, you knew the guy a week and he changed his mind. that's life. feelings? what feelings? a week isn't long enough to develop any. he liked you but something happened to make him realise it wasn't going to work. that's all. look, i'm just saying. but you say 'this one felt real and right' and if you let him know that, it could be why he disappeared. you can't know what feels right after a week. maybe you came on too strong. you need to know someone a month or two before making a decision about them - and even then they can surprise you. just take it easy. i know dating is hard, and trusting people is hard, and meeting people you click with is hard, but just chill out a bit. the fact you thinking this is shocking tells me you're probably pretty young and dramatic. so just be cool. guys will appreciate it.
Sally00 Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 This has happened to me like 10 times before. It sucks. And I'll don't understand why guys do that... I will never know, to be honest. Anything could have happened. There are a lot of reasons, but I don't want to bore you (or even myself) with them. But all I know are that there are a lot of *******s out there. A LOT. And you will find somebody... trust me. Maybe right now is just not the right timing for you. God has a plan for you. Pray and tell him how you feel. It'll make you feel better. You will get a sense of comfort and security from it.
johan Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 This has happened to me like 10 times before. It sucks. And I'll don't understand why guys do that... I will never know, to be honest. Not just guys do it. It happens all the time. It's a fact of life. It's better to not invest so much up front. If it's the right person, it won't hurt anything, because they'll hang in there. If it's the wrong person, then you won't feel so disappointed when the turn-around comes. The last thing you want to do is blame yourself, because that leads to obsessive thinking.
mishy Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 CALM DOOWWNNN!!!!!! geez you met the guy LAST WEEK!!!!- not LAST YEAR!!! I would say by the sounds of your story that he sensed that you were a bit over eager (ie texting to him unprompted). And he would be right - you ARE over eager. Three days is nothing. Do nothing, just wait . It really doesn't mean rejection at all- its only THREE DAYS. Come back here when he hasn't contacted you for three WEEKS. I think u might have come over really intense to him and he's just taking a breather and thinking about what he thinks of you and whether he wants to pursue it. Relax!!!
Outcast Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 TV and the movies have you believing that people fall 'madly in love' in a matter of hours or days. It's completely not true. Don't let yourself turn into a drama queen imagining yourself part of a grande passion within a matter of days or you'll scare normal rational people off bigtime. As everyone else is saying, CHILL It takes a long time to know someone enough to fall for him. People don't become joined at the hip the minute they meet. So forget what you see on TV and the movies and give people time to get to know you and you them. As in months, not days.
johan Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 TV and the movies have you believing that people fall 'madly in love' in a matter of hours or days. It's completely not true. What are you saying? That I shouldn't believe what I see on the TV? What about Mythbusters? I've always taken what they do to be pretty much the real thing. In fact, I think I'm going to submit your little theory to Mythbusters and see what they make of it. Of course, if they prove it right, then how will I believe them? Same if they prove it wrong. It's a little scary to think about actually. Dammit, Outcast, why do you say these things? Can't you just keep quiet?? To get back on topic though, I do recommend the original poster turn off the TV and maybe do a little reading.
mishy Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 i think the guy might be thinking 'geez if she's this full on now ( ie clingy) whats she gonna be like if we are in a RELATIONSHIP''. Thats high maintenance. I know its hard, but, you need to believe that being intense does not produce results. Maybe he's just sprained his ankle/ lost his voice/ got a sick aunt/ got an exam/ got gastroenteritis/ got distracted... or absolutely nothing/ he'll ring and i'm sure he won't have even noticed theres a time lapse and you'll be all puffing and panting "Why didn't u ring" and then THATS how you scare em off.
LikkleMissConfused Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 brush it off and move on love! People on here are right it is just life and it does make you feel ****ty as well but you will be over it in a week. Chin up and get on with life!
Guest Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 Ok I guess I need to calm down but we met on vacation and we spent 4 straight days living together and it made it feel very intense. He was all about me contacting him even though I said I wasn't into it. He called me and texted me everyday and then I texted him on my own as per his request. I usually never contact a guy and give him space. He came over just slept over and that's it... and yes we shouldnt have had sex so soon but it just happened and that is why I feel so intense. If he calls great I just don't think he will I just have been thru this too many times to count... I just know from past experiences if a guy isn't calling then he usually isnt into you. He was moving sat as well so there was that factor but not even a text to say hi... I just thought this felt better than this is going....
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