soberminded Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Yes, I agree. IMO, when people are overly generous, it usually means they have issues with themselves. It's almost as though they have to "sell" themselves to you, in order for you to like them. Because basically they don't feel worthy as a person. If a woman is not smart enough to appreciate my generosity then she's not someone I would be interested in pursuing a relationship with in the first place. Therefore I don't have any sympathy for a woman who dumps a nice guy for a complete jerk. I try to go for the women who will not think it's a crime for me to be as generous as I want to be. It's my perogative how much I want to give.
lindya Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 So hears the scoop folks, I quit. I tried to play it cool I tried to do teh right thing. I tried and I fail, over and over and over. Seeing as how all I ever seem to do is hurt people, I wont be trying to do that anymore. Its apparent to me I have major issues. I dont have the time or money to go to a shrink and fix myself, and to be honest, as deep as these issues go, it would take decades to fix anyways, so who gives a ****. All I ever wanted was someone to share a life with. Just one person. on equal terms. I watch these pricks who are married, have affairs, abuse the hell out of their wives, treat them like crap, and the damn women keep coming back for more. They cant get enough it seems. Ive absolutely had it. Im done. Peace Out I didn't read this when I posted before. We all have times when the adult thing to do is look at our behaviour and say "yes - I ****ed up there." And however easy it is to sound self righteous on this site...we do all **** up sooner or later. I'm always dispensing sage advice, and I've probably ****ed up more spectacularly and more times than just about any other regular here. The answer isn't to beat yourself up endlessly, or enter into a pit of self loathing. It's just about learning the lesson then moving on. Your ex girlfriend won't be helped by you rolling in guilt and self-flagellation. If you can't afford counselling, then make some use of this site...but do NOT give up on yourself. Half of life is about trying to untangle the scrunched up balls of confusion and mistakes that most of us are.
KittenMoon Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 KM, Looks like you look for usability and functionality versus vanity items? Yes, yes, and yes. But sentimentality is appreciated if it can be worked into the gift as well.
magichands Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Some people no doubt do very blatantly give with the aim of getting something in return. Haha... yes. And I'm still waiting. So now I'm wondering whether to double up, or change this line item to "loving donation." But seriously now, I do think it's a great way of looking at it - to give without any expectations. And then you won't be so disappointed when they screw up their face, and say "You shouldn't have." I wonder what would happen if I was ever given the royal treatment. I would probably be thinking - hey, I'm worth it! But I won't hold my breath.
amaysngrace Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 If a woman is not smart enough to appreciate my generosity then she's not someone I would be interested in pursuing a relationship with in the first place. Therefore I don't have any sympathy for a woman who dumps a nice guy for a complete jerk. Okay, please don't take out all of the wounds inflicted upon you by another woman on me. I didn't dump you for somebody else. And besides, I see nothing wrong with dumping a guy whose only good quality is gift-giving. To me, they are the jerks.
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