Guest Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Hi all. I could really use some wisdom & support w/my recent break-up. I dated a guy on & off for 4 mths total, exclusive during the last mth. He disappeared w/out any explanation a week ago. Last time I've seen/heard from him, we had gone out w/some of my friends & he was to sleep over but changed his mind, he dropped me off & then called me on his way home but was acting strange. Earlier that night I jokingly said to him "you don't want me", which he said bothered him. I apologized & we continued talking but he was still acting strange. I asked if anything else was wrong, he said no but I knew otherwise – call it women’s intuition. So next day he calls & he still seems bothered by something. We talked a little while longer & he said he’d call me later, but never did. I left him a vm the next day, but never heard back & I havent called him since. Who knows what happened, of course I wish I had answers but regardless, the fact that he couldnt work through it like an adult just shows me his mentality. He’s been cheated on before & is a few years younger, certain things he’d say or do clearly proved how insecure he really is. Nonetheless, I still can’t help but feel angry & used. He was so adament w/wanting a RL w/me, even after sex, but I always tried to keep it casual for this exact reason. I should have known he was going to flake out. I’m just so frustrated because I have no closure & I realize everyone goes through this at some point, but how do you put it behind & move on in a healthy & positive manner?
tearful_soul22 Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 Dissapeared? How long has he been gone now? Maybe you should try one more time to contact him..perhaps something happened that prevented him from calling you back. This is a big deal and no doubt you feel frustated and perhaps angry because you have spent a lot of time and emotional energy hoping and wondering and working on this relationship only to be left like this..but, it's also wise not to assume the worse before you actually know what the real reason is for his sudden dissapearance. Find the closure you need first...Take care and good luck to you!
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