corny1 Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 My girlfriend and I were together two years ago. I treated her like gold. We never argued, got along great. What happened is she ended up leaving me for her ex who was in prison at the time. She told me that she was still in love with him and had to give him another shot. She went ice cold on me and stopped making love to me and gave me zero affection right before this happended. She went back to him and then he ended up cheating on her for the sixth time so she left him and moved to Florida. I recieved a text from her 5 months after she moved saying that she was moving back. We ended up getting back together after she moved back. We talked alot about us being together again and she said that I was the guy that she wanted to be with. I bought us a house and I asked her right before I bought the house if this is exactly what she wanted. Was she going to be willing to go through thick and thin to make it work and she said no doubt that she was. Well over time I had alot of anamosity towards what she did to me the first time and I was crabby towards her. It led to alot of arguing for about a month or so. Another thing that she did is she would go out till early in the morning and come home stinking drunk. Im talking 4:30 in the a.m while I am at home watching her daughter. That did not help. She also has a friend that was a booty call in the past. On Memorial day weekend she told me that she was going out with her friends and she ended up going out with him till bar close. I was cool with that but then she said that he was on his way over to our house to take a shower while I wasnt there. She just expected me to accept this. She again went ice cold emotionally and stopped making love to me. I told her that I would change to become the person that she fell in love with and I did. She continued to be cold and distant. So I said that enough was enough and that I was going to lay it on the line. I went out and bought her a promise ring and told her that i would be there for her anyway that I could but she had to decide if I was the one for her. She stood up and asked me if I was retarted. I couldnt believe it. I bought a house for her. I told her I would change and I did. She told me that there was not a spark there for me. So she has moved out and I just want to get someone elses opinion as to what the hell is her deal. Another thing is I am a professional person and she is for lack of a better word tailer trash. I just cannot figure out how a person like her could not want a better life with someone like me. Really confused and any help would be great.
westernxer Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I was gonna tell you to take the trash out already, but it looks like the trash left on its own terms. Why would you settle for this?
Guest Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Cant you do better than this, shes dating an ex con character problems dont ya think? SELL SELL SELL
ILoveDaniel Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 My girlfriend and I were together two years ago. I treated her like gold. We never argued, got along great. What happened is she ended up leaving me for her ex who was in prison at the time. She told me that she was still in love with him and had to give him another shot. She went ice cold on me and stopped making love to me and gave me zero affection right before this happended. She went back to him and then he ended up cheating on her for the sixth time so she left him and moved to Florida. I recieved a text from her 5 months after she moved saying that she was moving back. We ended up getting back together after she moved back. We talked alot about us being together again and she said that I was the guy that she wanted to be with. I bought us a house and I asked her right before I bought the house if this is exactly what she wanted. Was she going to be willing to go through thick and thin to make it work and she said no doubt that she was. Well over time I had alot of anamosity towards what she did to me the first time and I was crabby towards her. It led to alot of arguing for about a month or so. Another thing that she did is she would go out till early in the morning and come home stinking drunk. Im talking 4:30 in the a.m while I am at home watching her daughter. That did not help. She also has a friend that was a booty call in the past. On Memorial day weekend she told me that she was going out with her friends and she ended up going out with him till bar close. I was cool with that but then she said that he was on his way over to our house to take a shower while I wasnt there. She just expected me to accept this. She again went ice cold emotionally and stopped making love to me. I told her that I would change to become the person that she fell in love with and I did. She continued to be cold and distant. So I said that enough was enough and that I was going to lay it on the line. I went out and bought her a promise ring and told her that i would be there for her anyway that I could but she had to decide if I was the one for her. She stood up and asked me if I was retarted. I couldnt believe it. I bought a house for her. I told her I would change and I did. She told me that there was not a spark there for me. So she has moved out and I just want to get someone elses opinion as to what the hell is her deal. Another thing is I am a professional person and she is for lack of a better word tailer trash. I just cannot figure out how a person like her could not want a better life with someone like me. Really confused and any help would be great. Well you seem like a pretty good person overall and I don't think that anyone should change just to satisfy their mate, honestly. You need to be YOU and if she can't accept that then she's a stupid ass. She seems kind of retarded to me. Get your money back on the stuff that you bought her if you can.
norajane Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 She keeps kicking you in the face and you keep wanting to be with her. Why are you asking what her deal is? What is your deal that you would accept this kind of behavior from anyone?
Walk Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 She walked all over you. And everytime she treated you like crap you bought her bigger and better things. She steps on your face and you buy her a promise ring?? Not good. She doesn't have any respect for you. She doesn't love you. She used you. Hard. As long as you were the meek little boy who didn't put up any resistance to her, gave her the lifestyle she wanted, then she was fine being with you. But she didn't respect you or even care if you were there. She wanted your stuff. Not you. I'm not sure this woman has any respect or love for herself. How can she love someone else?
Guest Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 Thank you for your input it really helps. I know it doesnt matter, but do you think that she will have any regret over what she did to me and the decision that she made? I think that the only type of person that she is going to ever be able to be with is someone who doesnt care about her becasue they are the ones who wont care if she respects them or not. What do you think?
Vertex Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 People can be stupid and give up something great. Let bygones be bygones -- find someone more appreciative and let the stupid do their own thing.
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