soft heart Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Hello all, my boyfriend and I have had quite a few fights months ago until he stood his ground and said enough to my emotionalism and me being upset with him. He said that he felt that our relationship was all about me and my needs and he said he was fed up. He said that no matter how much he tried, I did not appreicate him. Anyway, we nearly broke up but he said he is still with me but since then he has not been the same. He has been very distant with me. He said it hurt him how I treated him, I always told him that it's over even though I did not mean it. He said that he needed to see that we can be fine but he said he was not sure he can be completely fine with me again. So now he is distant, he still talks to me and he will occassionaly call me but he has been spending a lot of time with his friends lately and I feel that he is neglecting me. I have been trying really hard to make some improvements on myself but I cannot help feeling that he is giving me a cold shoulder and he is not showing that much interest in me like he used. He used to be so much more attentive and so much more loving? Now he is silent, whenever I ask him how he is, he is always spending time with his friends or he is tired. His emotional distance is hurting me. I saw him 2 weekends ago and we did have a nice time with no arguments but since I left his place, he has not been really that much in contact with me? What should I do? Do you have any suggestions please? Maybe I have been acting a little desparate these days and I feel he is sensing it. I am just really confused and lost and not sure what to do now? I love him and I don't want loose him but I feel like he has stopped giving me any signs that he wants to have our relationship back like we used to have?
Diver012 Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 You need to say exactly what you posted here, word for word, and tell it to him. It may be to late, it may not be. He feels completely neglected and is hurt by this, atleast I woulod be. If you want him to feel appreciated by you, you need to validate his feelings on this and ask him to give things another try. I think his pulling away from you has forced you to realize his good points, instead of focusing on hin negative ones. Hold onto that.. Not everyone is perfect. I wish you the best. Good Luck!
Guest Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Hey softheart, I am going through something similar except my bf (now ex) just left & didnt give me any explanation. May I ask, what were the reasons behind you wanting to break up w/your BF? I'm not trying to shift the blame here, but generally speaking, when a woman wants to break up w/her BF, it is usually because he is neglecting her in some way or he has done something to send her off into panic mode. Just curious...
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