AloneForever Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 ... with the knowledge that your ex girlfriend is seeing someone else? She broke up with me 2 months ago. For a month now she is seeing someone else. And i just can't bare the thought of she doing the stuff we did with this other guy ....... i don't know how cope with thoughts of her kissing him .. hugging him ... going to bed with him. How do you guys do it? How not to think of that?
Chinook Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 ... with the knowledge that your ex girlfriend is seeing someone else? She broke up with me 2 months ago. For a month now she is seeing someone else. And i just can't bare the thought of she doing the stuff we did with this other guy ....... i don't know how cope with thoughts of her kissing him .. hugging him ... going to bed with him. How do you guys do it? How not to think of that? Oh jeez. I don't know. All I can tell you is that I don't think about it. Really. I just somehow block that out. My breakup is going on two years now and still painful on occasion. It's hard but also I know if I thought on these lines (and it's hard not to do that when typing a response) I'd be completely devastated. I think what I try to do is focus upon the now and not upon 'what if' which is what you're talking about. I mean you don't know what's happening with her. You need to focus upon what happened within you... why she ended it... and the real reasoning. For example she may have said 'you did this... or that' when in actual fact what she meant was 'my feelings changed and I don't love you'. Knowing this about someone and how their feelings changed shifts the 'blame' if you like and puts the focus back on what occurred and what you can learn from it... rather than what is happening and how it's hurting you. Learning from the experience will help you go forwards eventually. It just may take a bit of time.
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