amerikajin Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Obviously, if you have kids, marriage is a must. But without kids, why get married? For the love of God, why?
Woggle Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Because she wants to and she was willing to sign a prenup making sure I won't get screwed.
Chinook Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Obviously, if you have kids, marriage is a must. But without kids, why get married? For the love of God, why? For me, it would simply be the legality of it. I have particularly unique circumstances. If I'm with someone and I love them dearly and I mean beyond all reason and anything else... then it would be to protect them. If in law (in the UK anyway) they wouldn't have a say in my medical care or in the distribution of my estate (which is true here) by not being married - then being married will give them those things. At some point I may get sick again. If I'm lying ill in a hospice, I want someone who has known me and loved me to act in my best interests - not my Mother who is actually my next-of-kin and would act in HER interests as in, what SHE thinks is best for me... rather than what *I* would want. For example, I already know and have known since the moment I finished my last treatment, that I will never have cancer treatment again. I can't do it. If the cancer reoccurs then we already know that it didn't cure it the first time so there is no point in going through all that again only to be in pain and suffer the indignity of the treatment. So I would expect my SO (whoever that is) to make sure that those wishes are followed. Being married would give that person that power, over and above what my next-line relatives may think is best. The fact is you see, that they would want you to live no matter what.
alphamale Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 But without kids, why get married? For the love of God, why? Unless you want children and the "proper" family there really is no need for marriage.
Outcast Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 There's no reason to marry. There's no reason to have a partner. There's no such thing as love. All humans suck. There. That should cover it. Put this as a pinned post at the top of 'love and marriage' and be done with it. Sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Woggle Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 There's no reason to marry. There's no reason to have a partner. There's no such thing as love. All humans suck. There. That should cover it. Put this as a pinned post at the top of 'love and marriage' and be done with it. Sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Why do you get so defensive when peope decide that marriage is not for them?
alphamale Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Why do you get so defensive when peope decide that marriage is not for them? because she's full of ****
Outcast Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Not defensive. Just sick to death of constant negativity about everything. Why are people afraid to marry or have long-term relationships? Because they're terrified of other humans because they think everybody of the other gender is out to get them. It's sad. It's tiresome. It's unnecessary.
Woggle Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Not defensive. Just sick to death of constant negativity about everything. Why are people afraid to marry or have long-term relationships? Because they're terrified of other humans because they think everybody of the other gender is out to get them. It's sad. It's tiresome. It's unnecessary. It's the battle of the sexes and I doubt it will stop anytime soon. I don't condone it but it is what it is.
alphamale Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Just Why are people afraid to marry or have long-term relationships? Because....#1) they aren't worth the aggrivation, and #2) it's much better to be by yourself than in some mariginal "relationship"...
NightsInWhiteSatin Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Obviously, if you have kids, marriage is a must. But without kids, why get married? For the love of God, why? I dunno it doesnt secure anything nowadays! Why have relationships though? For the love of God whhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhy!
slinkysu Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I think it is a completely personal choice really. I am getting married because the committment of marriage and creating a union in the eyes of the law, in front of my family, but most importantly, in the eyes of God, means so very much to me and my fiance. We want to be a family before we create a family and we both believe in the sanctity of marriage and have the same view on marriage and what it means to both of us. Each to their own - but if you are raised in strong families with good marriages and surrounded by good marriages and positive role models, you view marriage as something sacred and special and you want to eminate and continue that.
superconductor Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Marriage creates jobs. Think of the tens of thousands of dollars couples spend on a wedding. Flowers, caterers, gown purchases, tux rentals, limo rentals, honeymoon vacations, etc. etc. And then the tens or hundreds of thousands spent on divorce lawyers. So do your part for the GDP! Get married and divorced!
Woggle Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Slinkysu I do admire your view on marriage but sadly not many people have that view anymore. Marriage has become a joke these days. Sometimes I wonder why I am about to do it myself.
alphamale Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I think it is a completely personal choice really. I am getting married because the committment of marriage and creating a union in the eyes of the law, in front of my family, but most importantly, in the eyes of God, means so very much to me and my fiance. Good luck...you're going to need it So do your part for the GDP! Get married and divorced! There should be some governmental award for people who get married and divorced more than three times. Sort of like a purple heart
Woggle Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 More like the Medal Of Honor. They should have a holiday for men who have survived more than 2 divorces.
Author amerikajin Posted July 16, 2006 Author Posted July 16, 2006 For me, it would simply be the legality of it. I have particularly unique circumstances. If I'm with someone and I love them dearly and I mean beyond all reason and anything else... then it would be to protect them. If in law (in the UK anyway) they wouldn't have a say in my medical care or in the distribution of my estate (which is true here) by not being married - then being married will give them those things. Brah, that's what power of attorney's for. You don't have to be married to have that, last time I checked. You can always leave her in your will, too, so that she gets the assets. You can even make her the beneficiary of your life insurance policy, can't you? Or can you? Whatever, there are ways to set up your s.o. so that you make sure she's taken care of in the event something happens to you. And it's much cheaper to change a will or drop a beneficiary than it is to get a divorce...and it won't f*ck your credit rating either.
elijahBailey Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 man, i'm so going thru a rough patch in my relationship, and, yeah, I think marriage is really unnecessary if you're not thinking about starting a family. And I suspect a lot of people will come to this realization at some point in their lives. But for those who're already in it and have kids, well, for the sake of the kids, you gotta learn how to put the kids first, and yourself second. I sometimes think that mankind isn't monogamous by nature; it's such a struggle to try to be.
alphamale Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 But for those who're already in it and have kids, well, for the sake of the kids, you gotta learn how to put the kids first, and yourself second. ...and your own happiness third
chicagocathryn Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 if you think that that the only reason to get married or that's why people get married, then you are mistaken. in the olden days marriage was primarily for procreation. granted w/marriage comes children, like the saying goes, "first comes love, then comes marriage then comes the baby in the baby carriage." I feel that marriage is also about the loving committment of two people and that entails sharing a life together even without the joys of children. it all depends on what you feel marriage entails.
HokeyReligions Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Why not? If you are going to live together as a couple; have joint assets, share everything - then why not get married? If you're just in it for sex, then why make a commitment at all? Why make any vow's or promises? Almost everyone on this board would go away because there wouldn't be anything to discuss - except sex. Leave emotions like love and fidelity and 'relationships' out of all of it. No need to ask 'why' anything anymore. Some folks live just fine like that. Other's don't.
alphamale Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 If you are going to live together as a couple; have joint assets, share everything - then why not get married? because i like women too much to actually marry one (again) and ruin both our lives...
timidity99 Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 I see no reason to get married unless I'm having kids. It's hard to find women my age who think the same way as I do about marriage. 3 of my relationships ended because the woman wanted a commitment to live together and/or marriage and I was not interested. I guess I can't expect to have a lasting relationship if I never desire to move in with a woman or marry her.
Author amerikajin Posted July 17, 2006 Author Posted July 17, 2006 Moving in with a woman? Cool. Sharing bank accounts and other assets? Nah... Only if you've got kids. Sorry ladies...this is what feminism has done to modern men. It's made us afraid of marriage.
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