CanaDavid Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Hello, My name is David I'm 19, I'm from Ontario, Canada and I have been involved in a LDR for almost 10 months. I met my g/f who lives in Houston Texas in the end of June, and we are having some troubles getting back in the swing of being online again. Everything was perfect when we met for the first time, but now things are getting a bit distant. We loved the time we spent together, and literally didn't leave each other's side from the time we woke up until the time we went to sleep. Now we don't have each other anymore and it's hard to cope with it, because it was our first time meeting. she starts college at the end of august, and i wont be able to see her again until december. I am going to school, and my program is only two years, and I told her that I am moving down a soon as I am done, but I need some advice to help us cope with the loss once you leave. if you could tell me the things that you do, that would be very helpful. thank you all very much.
lil_angel Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 i kno the feeling! me and my bf met in may, and ever since then the distance has been a lot harder. he's in the military also, so i wont see him again until at least december, maybe later. the key is to just keep doing what you've been doing. remember, the most important part of a relationship isnt holding hands and staring lovingly into each other's eyes, it's sharing your lives. while physical closeness feels great, and definitely plays an undeniable role in the relationship, its not what makes the relationship work. it's sharing things, feeling open and comfortable w/ each other, the inside jokes, the laughter, listening to and being there for each other, helping each other grow as people. instead of focusing on how much you miss each other, just focus on what you have now. focus on how great it is to talk to her, talk about the things you could DO together when you do meet, and i dont just mean how much you want to hold her, but activities you're both into, things like that. talk about your everyday lives right now, keep each other updated, filled in, basically focus on the relationship, not the long distance. trust me, i kno its hard, but it is doable.
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