stillafool Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 I know this is a stupid thread but it seems male attorneys are the biggest "cheaters" of them all. I have two friends involved with attorneys that are MM. The MM I almost got back involved with is an attorney and I've read several posts about attorneys who are MM "hitting on" or "trying to seduce" OW. What do you think? Do you think occupation has anything to do with the cheater? Just wanted your views.
alphamale Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Do you think occupation has anything to do with the cheater? Of course it does. Professional men such as doctors and lawyers tend to make more money and have more power and status. Ergo, they have more women running after them and more opportunities to cheat. Any other questions STILLAFOOL?
Author stillafool Posted July 15, 2006 Author Posted July 15, 2006 Yeah I forgot about that little thing called "money and status". Yet isn't it funny how mothers always want their daughters to marry a doctor or a lawyer. Mothers should start telling their daughters to be a doctor or a lawyer.
norajane Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 I work in the consulting industry and I'm convinced that's where there is the most cheating. Consultants travel a lot and are often away from their wives/families during the week, they meet lots of people, and there are a lot of hotel rooms and distant cities that make cheating really, really easy.
Blackfrost Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 I always thought the porn industry had the most cheaters
BareGoddess Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Ok, I'll answer this. My ex-husband is a lawyer. I was with him nine years and he never cheated on me. My current husband is also a lawyer. We've been together almost twelve years. He's never cheated on me. What does that tell you? Where did you get that silly idea?
samsungxoxo Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Some professionals do cheat and others do not. Look at ex president Bill Clinton, he is/was a laywer and cheated. Now that must have been so embarrassing.
Guest Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I think that certain personality types are attracted towards certain professions. The ones I see as having the personality type most geered towards cheating is the thrill seeker. Professions that entail a lot of drama and action attract the thrill seeker. These professions include: cops, firemen, the military---as well as doctors and criminal lawyers. This personality type thrives on new and exciting adventures and an element of risk and danger. Thier married life becomes dull and boring to them as they get bored easily. Their professions often are ones which involve a large ego and boldness. Combine all of those traits together and you have the personality type that is more likely to stray and the professions which attract that personality type.
BareGoddess Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Yes, Ailec that was my point! It doesn't matter what a man (or woman) does for a living. It's completely irrelevant as far as their character is concerned. There are loyal and disloyal men and women from ALL walks of life, all professions, all backgrounds, etc. etc.
Tony T Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I have read statistics that indicate the husbands of wives who are more than four months pregnant are among the biggest group of cheaters and they come from all vocations. As far as attorneys go, I would think that divorce attorneys would have a greater opportunity to cheat with their female clients than personal injury attorneys whose clients are mostly injured in some way.
BareGoddess Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I think that certain personality types are attracted towards certain professions. The ones I see as having the personality type most geered towards cheating is the thrill seeker. Professions that entail a lot of drama and action attract the thrill seeker. These professions include: cops, firemen, the military---as well as doctors and criminal lawyers. This personality type thrives on new and exciting adventures and an element of risk and danger. Thier married life becomes dull and boring to them as they get bored easily. Their professions often are ones which involve a large ego and boldness. Combine all of those traits together and you have the personality type that is more likely to stray and the professions which attract that personality type. What bunk!
BareGoddess Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I have read statistics that indicate the husbands of wives who are more than four months pregnant are among the biggest group of cheaters and they come from all vocations. As far as attorneys go, I would think that divorce attorneys would have a greater opportunity to cheat with their female clients than personal injury attorneys whose clients are mostly injured in some way. We weren't talking about "opportunity." That's an entirely separate topic. Besides just because the opportunity is there, doesn't mean all men are going to take advantage of that. Yes, SOME will..not ALL. And in my experience not even MOST.
burning 4 revenge Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Ok, I'll answer this. My ex-husband is a lawyer. I was with him nine years and he never cheated on me. My current husband is also a lawyer. We've been together almost twelve years. He's never cheated on me. What does that tell you? Where did you get that silly idea? and i thought you were about twenty
BareGoddess Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 and i thought you were about twenty What ever gave you THAT idea? Do I come across as that young? I've long since passed twenty!
burning 4 revenge Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 What ever gave you THAT idea? Do I come across as that young? I've long since passed twenty! me too. i don't know, this is the internet and people are invisible that's not a good explanation, but it's the only one i have
magichands Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 We weren't talking about "opportunity." That's an entirely separate topic. Besides just because the opportunity is there, doesn't mean all men are going to take advantage of that. Yes, SOME will..not ALL. And in my experience not even MOST. Yeah... most men in a happy marriage would never think of another woman. 62% of cheaters are never found out. Actually, I just made that up.
BareGoddess Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Yeah... most men in a happy marriage would never think of another woman. 62% of cheaters are never found out. Actually, I just made that up. Well, they might THINK of another woman. I won't delude myself but ACTING on it, is another matter entirely. I would know if I were being cheated on. Never have been.
Author stillafool Posted July 16, 2006 Author Posted July 16, 2006 Ok, I'll answer this. My ex-husband is a lawyer. I was with him nine years and he never cheated on me. My current husband is also a lawyer. We've been together almost twelve years. He's never cheated on me. What does that tell you? Where did you get that silly idea? From all the cheating attorneys I know and hear about. Good for you that your's doesn't cheat.
Author stillafool Posted July 16, 2006 Author Posted July 16, 2006 I would know if I were being cheated on. Never have been. Unfortunately, not necessarilly. Too many of us have thought that and had the wool pulled over our eyes.
BareGoddess Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Unfortunately, not necessarilly. Too many of us have thought that and had the wool pulled over our eyes. Well, that's a shame. But it never happened to me. And to the OP. I've never heard that lawyers as a group, cheat any more than any other group of people. It's ridiculous. Someone brought up about divorce lawyers having more opportunities to cheat. Most of the ones I know are even MORE faithful and loyal because of the broken families they have to deal with every day. They see first hand what the consequences of that kind of behavior can bring.
Author stillafool Posted July 16, 2006 Author Posted July 16, 2006 Well, that's a shame. But it never happened to me. Yes it is a shame when anyone is cheated on regardless of the cheating spouse's profession. As I said earlier "good that your's doesn't cheat on you". And to the OP. I've never heard that lawyers as a group, cheat any more than any other group of people. It's ridiculous. I've never heard of any statistics that breakdown cheating by profession. It would be an interesting read. I was just asking a question and didn't feel my question was ridiculous or silly. Someone brought up about divorce lawyers having more opportunities to cheat. Most of the ones I know are even MORE faithful and loyal because of the broken families they have to deal with every day. They see first hand what the consequences of that kind of behavior can bring. I don't know about divorce lawyers as I don't know any (thank God my husband and I don't need one) but I can see how a vulnerable wife would be attracted to him since he's advising and holding her hand throughout the process. I think that could be a reason a lot of women fall in love with their doctors. I know mostly corporate attorneys. I think also like the Guest person said people who become lawyers and doctors have outgoing personalities and that's attractive to a lot of women. Also a lot of lawyers go on to be politicians. It doesn't hurt that these guys make a lot of money. Heck, I bet Investment Bankers really clean up.
BareGoddess Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Yes, fool it happens all the time. Women DO get attached to their divorce lawyers. It's up to the lawyer to set the boundaries and be a professional. And many ARE. I agreed with everything you said. And it would be interesting to see some kind of breakdown on that.
Author stillafool Posted July 16, 2006 Author Posted July 16, 2006 I'm glad you said that because it's not just up to married professionals to set boundaries but all married people have to. My h and I talk about that all the time. If you feel uncomfortable in a situation and sense it may get out of hand you have to act immediately to set your boundary.
BareGoddess Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I'm glad you said that because it's not just up to married professionals to set boundaries but all married people have to. My h and I talk about that all the time. If you feel uncomfortable in a situation and sense it may get out of hand you have to act immediately to set your boundary. Yes, of course. I couldn't agree more.
FredTravels Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I have no idea, but I would think that an attorney might have a better idea of the consequences and how to weasel out of it if caught. THey are nothing more than professional liars for the most part. Sounds harsh but hey it is true. In the criminal realm, they defend people that they KNOW are guilty as hell and massage the facts (truth) to get their client off. This is no different for corporate attorneys, divorce attorneys, or ambulance chasers. Now, I also think that the dynamic of the family has a lot to do with the cheating. Of course opportunity is key as well. But, if you are an attorney, doctor, or some such muckety muck with a kid or two, I would venture to say that there is a good chance your wife is staying at home tending to the kids while you earn the big bucks to support the family. It is easy to fall into the trap of "oh, I am entitled to do it, look at what I provide." and "oh she does not work, so even if I do get caught, what is she going to do? she certainly would not leave me and leave all this."
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