mgm Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Here is my story short but you can kind of get the idea. My husband and I have been together for 20 years and married 16yrs. We have three beautiful children ages 15,11 and 8. About six months ago he decide that he did not love me anymore and wanted to move out. He said it was to see if he missed me and he said that's where he needs to be. He can't change his feelings. He says there is no one else that I just can't except that he does not love me anymore. He did have an affair with a co worker 5 years ago. That is one of the reason's he say's that he just can't except what he has done to me and I can't either. But I have I took him back because I love him and everything was great. This is just out of the blue. He won't talk to me about it only just about the kids. He say's he feels guilt for what he is doing again. That I have been hurt twice now and just get over it and be there for our children. I have lost 40 pounds and we see our mediator on Tuesday. His parents are at a lost but they don't want to get involved. His father owns the shop that he works at. His family has basically disowned me. His sister always called me and went and did things with me and I always helped her out. She has not talked to me in 6 months and neither has his brother or his wife. i didn't do anything wrong. His mom told me that his sister is very stressed out over this and she is just a ball of nerves. What the hell about me and the kids it is always about his sister. He told his mother that when his sister divorced 8 years ago no one said anything to her. Mind you she was married for 6 years and no children and she wanted it. She is very mad a my lawyer for going through the books at the shop. But if he doesn't want to be with me then i have to look out for me and my children. Oh I haven't worked in 16years either. I am a stay at home mom. That is work. Took care of the house the outside everything. Our home is beautiful and our children are wonderful very well mannered thanks to me. But I guess it wasn't good enough. He has said we had a good life he enjoyed our life. But our personalities are just diffrent. Well I wish I would have known that he wasn't going to stay around he also said we got married to young 21. We are all eachother knows. What kind of crap is that. I will be with you for 16years and three children but now it's time for me to find someone else...
Guest Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 I would love someone to respond to my message. Went to court today August 22 and it has been moved now till the 12 of Oct. Husband got a new attorney after six months of the old one. Doesn't want me to have a thing at his company says I'm not intitled to any of it. Please read my letter above and give me some in sight....... Thanks
flowerpot Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Hey MGM, I'm sorry that we are goimg through parallel times. It sounds like you've done a good job raising you're children, taking care of the home, and being a supportive wife. I know this sucks but you have to look out for you & the kids. I know I am!! As for the business a attourny would be able to give you the best advice, different states have different laws. My state is a no fault state, but fortunatially my STBXW did'nt seek half of everything but still did alot of damege to me. Take care of yourself & don't forget to pray!!!!
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