Guest Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Hi. Im new to this forum but I have done something the other night that I cant forgive myself for. Well here is the story. I have been at my new work place for about six months and have made a few friends, there is this one girl who liked me but later found out that I was engaged that she sort of backed off, anyway we are friends now so it all cool. The other night when we finished work, I offered to drop her off home, she lives on my way home and I thought I would be nice, and give her a lift. We got out of the car and we hugged, just a normal friend hug and a peck on the cheeck to say goodbye. We started to hug again, we looked in each others eyes for ages, then we just kissed, it was a full on kiss, and we just kept kissing. It felt so right at the time. We started to talk about it asap, I felt like a loser, I just hurt my fiance, she is the best thing that ever happen to me and I love her so much, and I probably just lost some trust in my friend to, feel like I gave her a sort of a false hope or something. It was really hard the next day at work, people already think we are having an affair cos there narrow minded people. We started talking and she said that it was not a problem and she has been hurt before, I didnt want to hurt her, or even kiss her, it just happend. Sorry for the long message, can anyone help out, I feel like I should be shot for what I had done, and its hard to talk to my friend to now.
Outcast Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Well, actually, it didn't just happen. You had to move arms, face, lips, head. Unless you suffer from sort of bizarre medical condition, these things occurred because you didn't stop them. If you haven't enough willpower to not kiss a woman every time you drive one home, then you better swear to your bride not only to love and honour but to drive only men home until the end of your days.
magichands Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 You'd better hurry up and figure out what you want, dude. People are already getting hurt.
Tony T Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 It sounds like you don't have all the playing out of your system. You are certainly not ready to make a lifetime commitment to anybody. Hold off on the wedding while you take inventory of exactly where you are in your heart and your head. I think you need more time to scout around...if you know what I mean. Sure, you may lose your fiance but it would be much less heartbreak to do it now than to wait until after marriage when you itch to cheat at every turn. You need to take what happened the other night very seriously. You simply aren't ready for marriage....not now. See a counsellor if you think you need some professional direction.
Colossus Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Thanks for the reply, I decided to sign up. The stupid thing is me and my fiance have been seeing each other four five years and we have been engaged for 1 and a half years. The thought of cheating or even looking at another woman has never crossed my mind before. I think I have to tell her cos I just want to die or something. Cant believe what I have done, It wasnt an urge or anything, I swear. I do have feelings for my friend but just as a friend. I never even thought about kissing her at all, she is younger than me and I look out for her cos she has been through alot in her life. Sorry but this is really eating me up now, cant even sleep and its hard going to work in the morning. Thanks guys.
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