confused423 Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 hello all.... My gf tells me today that she needs to take a break from "us" because the things going on in her life are just to much to handle with a bf right now. and i was basically given the choice to either take the break or keep going on and break up sooner... so because i dont want to loose her, i took the break. Now i dont understand the terms of a break at all... i asked her what that ment to her and she said that it means that i dont come and see her anymore, we can still comunicate just nowhere near as much as we do now... my problem is that i dont want to take a break so if it were up to me i would call every day as usuall. im afraid that if i call too much then im not giving her enough space, but if i dont call her enough then we just start growing apart... and now its all the more likley that one day im going to get a call. this may sound desperate... but i promise im not i can move on and i will should i have to. i love her though and i want to make this work. my question is , if theres anything left for us what should i do to not kill it. That and what are the usuall terms of a break?
wing81 Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 I'm sure you don't want to hear this but give her some space. She doesn't necessarily want the break because she doesn't want to be with, she may just need to figure out where her life is going. There are a couple of sayings that I think might be fitting. First, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”. Maybe this is a chance for both of you to experience life away from each other and find out who you are. Second “If you love someone let them go, if they come back she is yours, if not they never were”. For now enjoy yourself and let life takes it course.
purspeed Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Act happy, be positive, be independent. Do not call her. Allow her to call you. Make her jealous. Date others. Realize that you don't need her, that you only prefer her, but that there are other women that can make you happy. Stick to this and she will come running back.
Javelin Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Now i dont understand the terms of a break The terms of a, "break" are different in each relationship! Let me add, depending on the person she is, will tell you exactly what the terms are. Nevertheless, when in doubt, ask! Call her and talk to her about what she wants from this break and so on. Ask all the questions your heart desires and make sure you understand completely to avoid confusion.
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