bottle my tears Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 this is my thing if anyone can respond. i have been seeing this guy i used to work with for about 2yrs. we both went through very bad divorce's. we were very close friends. i got a divorce after 20yrs kicked up my heels alot met him he was just going through divorce. so i understand alot of him not wanting to get tied down right away. but i let him know my truth feeling for him and the more i do the more he stops calling. i do understand alot but what do i do., i have a hard time hiding my feelings when i care for someone.,
amaysngrace Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 we both went through very bad divorce's. i let him know my truth feeling for him and the more i do the more he stops calling. i do understand alot but what do i do., i have a hard time hiding my feelings when i care for someone., Did you ever ask him why he does this? Do you ever talk about why it bothers him to hear how much you care for him? Are you pressuring him into a more serious relationship than he can handle right now? I'm not really understanding your situation because you didn't really give a whole lot of information.
Author bottle my tears Posted July 18, 2006 Author Posted July 18, 2006 he has told me he doesn't want a serious relationship at this time. that's fine with me but i do want to spend alittle more time 2gether and share our life together alittle more but i dn't know how to get him to understand this without pressurng him. he's a great guy. i just don't want to lose him all together. should i just leave him alone and see what happens. that's sooooooo hard for me to do if i don't talk to him everyday i get in a real bad mood. we were use to talking 2 or 3 time a day on the phone now he calls 2 or 3 times a week. any advice
amaysngrace Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 if i don't talk to him everyday i get in a real bad mood. we were use to talking 2 or 3 time a day on the phone now he calls 2 or 3 times a week. any advice You need to lay off of him. He isn't looking for someone to share his life with at this time. And the more you go to him, the more he's going to back off of you. See if you can stop calling him for a few days. See if he lets you go completely or calls you to see what's up. Either way, wait three days at least before calling him. You can probably use the breather from him to. You say that not hearing from him puts you in a bad mood. To me that suggests an unhealthy attachment you have for this man. Focus more on yourself, and less on him.
Author bottle my tears Posted July 27, 2006 Author Posted July 27, 2006 amaysgrace, thanks for the advice: i need all the help i can get most days You need to lay off of him. He isn't looking for someone to share his life with at this time. And the more you go to him, the more he's going to back off of you. See if you can stop calling him for a few days. See if he lets you go completely or calls you to see what's up. Either way, wait three days at least before calling him. You can probably use the breather from him to. You say that not hearing from him puts you in a bad mood. To me that suggests an unhealthy attachment you have for this man. Focus more on yourself, and less on him.
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