Meaplus3 Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 I am so about to break N/C after 7 weeks of NO physical contact. I have a chance to be with MM for a short time today and I really want to see him and hug him, just feel his strong arms around me, I know I should not do this but I am going crazy!! I am still not so sure that ending our affair was the best choice for both of us, beacuse we are in love. Anyone break N/C after almost a couple of month's and if so what was it like when you were together again? Any help is appreicated. Thanks.
whichwayisup Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Don't do it! 7 weeks is so good, so much progress... Ask yourself this...IS it worth afew moments of feeling good? Of just seeing him, talking to him? Don't you think that later on you'll feel bad? Miss him even more and want what you can't have, abit more? Please really think of the full picture. Sorry I can't help you much more than that, but from what others seem to have gone through, it's just easier and less painful to move on with your life. Wanting and loving someone you can't ever have is painful and if you really want to put yourself IN that situation again, be aware of all the bad feelings involved too...
Author Meaplus3 Posted July 14, 2006 Author Posted July 14, 2006 Don't do it! 7 weeks is so good, so much progress... Ask yourself this...IS it worth afew moments of feeling good? Of just seeing him, talking to him? Don't you think that later on you'll feel bad? Miss him even more and want what you can't have, abit more? Please really think of the full picture. Sorry I can't help you much more than that, but from what others seem to have gone through, it's just easier and less painful to move on with your life. Wanting and loving someone you can't ever have is painful and if you really want to put yourself IN that situation again, be aware of all the bad feelings involved too... Hey whichwayisup thanks for your advice!! Boy I really needed to hear something and fast! I know that if I see him it will just make it worse knowing I can never really have him, but darn it sure is tempting to feel good for a few moments, knowing how good he has made me feel for many months now. I am soooo goiing to try and not give in I hope I can do so. Thanks.
whichwayisup Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Well, I hope you find the strength to stay strong and not fall into that pattern again. You don't need that crap in your life, nor do you need him. If things were meant to fall into place for you two, it would have already...Sorry, but it hasn't and life is the way it is...So, try your best to move on and again - DON'T go see him. If you are feeling out of sorts about this, keep posting and someone will guide you away from those urges.
Author Meaplus3 Posted July 19, 2006 Author Posted July 19, 2006 Just wanted to update all on my scenerio! I did it!! I did not meet MM the other day. I have now made it to week eight with NO physical contact, I am so proud of myself. I just keep in the back of my mind that truth about the situation. "We will never be together, because we can't be" I am feeling so strong this week. The temptation to call him is starting to fade and I feel like I can breathe again! While my heart still aches for him at certain times, I now know the truth, we were NOT meant to be.
newbby Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 well done, thats fantastic! so this is not nc as a means to an end, it is nc permanent. good!
Author Meaplus3 Posted July 19, 2006 Author Posted July 19, 2006 well done, thats fantastic! so this is not nc as a means to an end, it is nc permanent. good! Thanks so much newbby for your kind words as I do the proud dance, LOL!! I feel like I own my own thoughts again after many many months. I guess I keep in the back of my head the simple fact that even if my current marriage does not end up workoing out I deserve the best from a man and I certanly would be cheating myself with a man like the MM I was invloved with. After all if he can lie and keep secrets from his so called dear wife than he certainly could do that to me, what would there be to gain NATTA darn thing!!
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