stoopid_guy Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Know what folks? I started having a lot more fun with women after I stopped trying to figure them out. I now just think of them as "magic." Personal philosophy; There are those things in life man is meant to understand. On the other hand, there are women.
Woggle Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Truth be told I don't think women understand us anymore than we understand them but they won't admit it.
Author amerikajin Posted July 16, 2006 Author Posted July 16, 2006 Because when a man asks "are you jealous" I've never asked a woman 'are you jealous?' If a woman's jealous, I'll know it. I agree: any guy who asks 'are you jealous?' is suspicious. I think a lot of the jealousies are caused by male/female friendships, especially when the 'friends' are former lovers. I used to try to do the friends thing but I've found that it's a waste of time in a lot of cases. It's usually something people say when they split so that they can feel better about things, but once it's over, it's usually over. And it should stay that way.
Author amerikajin Posted July 16, 2006 Author Posted July 16, 2006 Why do some women feel the need analyze everything instead of living in the moment and enjoying? Some women want to pick apart every aspect of a relationship and go over it with a fine toothed. Many of fights happen because a woman need to have one of those talks because of all the thoughts swirling around on her head. Why can't some women just kick and enjoy things? Amen. More to the point, why can't women just accept that what I say is exactly what I mean and nothing more. Case in point, my now ex-girlfriend and I are just 'dating' now. She asked me to go to a concert and I told her that I didn't really know if I could because honestly had to be careful about my money right now. I'm already going to her birthday party the next day, which will probably cost me a total of about $50 because we're going to a special roof-top restaurant. I've also got my nephew coming into town and then I have to leave the country for two weeks. On top of that, I'll be unemployed for almost six weeks because I work on a contract basis and I haven't found anything over the summer to cover the gap. She knows this. Yet she got offended and think I didn't want to be with her. I guess because women are so used to not saying what they really mean, they assume that men operate the same way. But when we say something, we mean it. Nothing more, nothing less.
Toni_no12002 Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 women do get jelous but so do men.where only human after all.If men are even bothering to ask the question are you jelous? they already know we are so why bother doing whatever it was that made us jelous in the first place unless of course they like making us jelous! We should start a thread about why men do certain things, like trying to make us jelous in the first place.lol
lindya Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Why do some women feel the need analyze everything instead of living in the moment and enjoying? Some women want to pick apart every aspect of a relationship and go over it with a fine toothed. Many of fights happen because a woman need to have one of those talks because of all the thoughts swirling around on her head. Why can't some women just kick and enjoy things? Seriously considering a reasoned answer from a female might help you gain a bit more insight...but it would require a bit of energy and mental agility. You seem to be a concrete thinker who's more comfortable with familiar, fixed patterns. On the plus side, that might make you more consistent in your opinions than someone who prefers to think in more abstract terms. On the negative side, concrete thinkers often find it hard to grasp new, unfamiliar concepts. If you are a concrete thinker, it's not surprising that you'd be hostile to analytical discussions. You're looking at this purely in terms of male style-v-female style of communication...which is limiting. I'd agree that people frequently do conform to gender stereotypes, but to understand the art of communication, and the ways in which it can go wrong, you need to also be able to think in terms of abstract thinkers-v-concrete thinkers, perception-v-judgement, high intellect-v-low intellect etc People don't necessarily fit into one category/have a particular communication style purely as a consequence of their gender. Even if he's something of a misogynist, the chances are that a highly intelligent man will prioritise his desire for intellectual stimulation over his desire to treat women dismissively. So if it's a choice between talking to a woman with an IQ of 150 and having a conversation with an averagely intelligent guy, the likelihood is that he'll opt for the former - unless he wants to discuss a specific subject that the averagely intelligent man has a good knowledge of. There are plenty of men out there - as well as women - who can't just kick back and enjoy things (or perhaps require a few drinks in order to do so) - mainly because their brains are in constant overdrive and pushing them to analyse everything in front of them. I hope your girlfriend is a concrete thinker too....otherwise I can envisage a lot of frustration arising between the two of you in terms of communication differences.
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