MacGyver Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 So my ex of 2 & 1/2 yrs broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. "The I NEED SPACE" break up. Anyways, we had got our stuff back from each other, but we both kept SOME stuff like gifts we had given each other. Anyways, long story short, while together i supplied her with an E-mail account, which she now uses for everything, and the other day i thought i would test something out, and see if she actually cared for me or just stringing me along, so... I cancelled it. Within hours she rang me after a week of NC and asked what had happened to her email. I told her a lie (mainly because i didnt have the balls to say i cancelled it & because there is still that little bit of hope of getting her back) and said that my ISP had problems and the passwords had changed, so i fixed it up for her. Anyways, as soon as that was done, she said "ok ill let you go, bye", i said bye and quickly hung up on her before she could hang up on me. Looks like my test proved something, but im not sure what. Thoughts? Oh, i was very polite and happy when talking to her on the phone. So proud of myself! But not proud of lying! But i thought, its for my own good and will help me get some answers.
Shane361 Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 I fail to see what you tested out. You two split..and the account you set up for her is turned off so she called you to see WTF? You restore it she goes on her marry way. Its over...forget about her. Not sure if I am missing something here or not-Shane
Guest Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Was it an email account that was staying being paid for in some annual manner? If so and you broke up and it was on your tab, sure, go ahead and cancel it. The only bad thing you did, at least from my perspective, was that you could have warned her and let her transfer/send over things of value she wished to save. I don't know exactly what you tested, but do you think that may have angered her?
Tony T Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Your ploy only showed you that she needs her email account...nothing more. It's over between the two of you and you'd be best advised to use your energies to more productive ends. Forget about this chick and her email account. Heal from the relationship and move on. Take your mind off of her. She's not coming back, at least for a while. The "I need space" thing, when translated into normal talk, means "I'd like to have some space next to somebody else." That's OK. Not everybody you date is going to want to spend the rest of their life with you. Thank your lucky stars she had enough guts to give you the boot now...rather than marry you and take you for all you've got later. I'm sure she appreciates the email account and on her behalf I would like you to know it's very kind of you. Now forget about her!!!
Author MacGyver Posted July 14, 2006 Author Posted July 14, 2006 Done... And yes your right it proved nothing. That would explain why i missed the point. LOL. Thanks again peeps. This place is a great help...
richardcruz Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Unfortunately, you know that your ex doesn't want to talk to you right now, and unsuprisingly your ex called you only to see what was going on with her email account. When my ex first broke up with me months ago, she would tell me that she didn't want to talk to me on the phone because she didn't have time anymore, yet she was going out with her friends and speaking to her "old interest" on the phone for hours. Your ex like many others (including mine) only cares about herself at this point. Obiviously she left you and gave you all the "I need space" bs and most likely hurt you a great deal in doing so. But again she most likely made the move that would benefit her at the moment. I know..it sucks. In other words, the fact that you two have not had any contact in the past two weeks probably doesn't bother her at this point because it is too recent, but something that effects her daily routine draws her immediate attention. Your ex is just focused on herself at this point, so you should make your best effort to do the same and focus on yourself. I too have that small spark of hope deep (very deep) within my heart that wishes that my ex wil come back one day but I really try my best to ignore it and convince myself that she will never return. Doing these type of things like the whole email thing you did won't really accomplish anything and will tell you very little to nothing of where she at in her feelings and in her state of mind. I don't thing you ticked her off, I just think that it was uneccesary. Stay away from her completely and stay busy. Its like someone told me "If she ever does end up calling you, it will probably be at a time when you'll least expect it."
MrPot Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 It should have been obvious long ago that the whole "I don't have time thing was a lie." So was the "I need space" thing, since the truth was really bluntly that she didn't have the same feelings for you anymore. People lie because it's easier than telling the truth. For proof... well... you just did it yourself. You know the truth, so the games should be over. The truth is that she doesn't want you anymore and you shouldn't want her, either.
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