Rob In NC Posted July 15, 2006 Share Posted July 15, 2006 Exactly. You told him you "needed a break." Then, sure enough, you got rid of him. LOL. Here's the translation to the phrase "needed a break": I'm bored with you. I want to go out and see if there is someone else I can hook up with. I need something new. But I want you there as a back-up, just in case "my break" isn't as fun as I thought it would be. I will try to keep stringing you along because it's always good to have a safety net for just in case my plan falters. Link to post Share on other sites
borderline_life Posted July 15, 2006 Share Posted July 15, 2006 I'm in a Very VERY similiar situation so I know how depressing it is to even consider the fact that it may not end well..but the fact that this all came after a vacation isn't good at all...it means 1 of 2 things either she met someone while on vacation and that confused her emotions OR which is possible that she liked just not having you around at all...not arguing and stuff not having to explain herself etc. She may not have cheated but often being away on vacation gives the sence of being single...some people hate it and some people enjoy the freedom a little too much. Secondly about the she'll contact you thing...not a good sign either in my opinion again it could be one of two things either she could have people around that she doesnt want you aware of OR she could be doing the control thing where she wants everything on her terms which it sounds like shes already doing a good job of...I'm sorry your going through this but honestly it probably isnt going to go well because when your truly in love and it does take two...you dont have doubts you dont play games and you dont take breaks.... Best of Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 at this moment so many things are going through my mind, does she want to stay with me or not? No. does she have the same feelings for me as before or not? No. Before, she had high interest level in you. Now, she has very low interest level in you. regardless if she asked for the break.. if she asked for a break and for her space then why is she contacting me still? She wants to keep you on a leash, for her own amusement. my feeling is that if she didnt care for me or didnt have the same feelings or close to it then she would have dumped me instead of asking for a break. *** this question is continuously running through my mind. why didnt she dump me instead of taking a break if she truly did not want to be with me anymore? When a woman wants to "take a break," the dump is inevitable. It's only a matter of time. The key is to disappear and be the first to leave. It hurts a lot less than if you wait around until she dumps you. Link to post Share on other sites
richardcruz Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 LOL. Here's the translation to the phrase "needed a break": I'm bored with you. I want to go out and see if there is someone else I can hook up with. I need something new. But I want you there as a back-up, just in case "my break" isn't as fun as I thought it would be. I will try to keep stringing you along because it's always good to have a safety net for just in case my plan falters. This is funny, kind of hurtful, but yet so so true Link to post Share on other sites
Rob In NC Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 This is funny, kind of hurtful, but yet so so true I was actually talking about a personal experience of mine:) . I went through the exact same thing as this guy. Although I slept with my ex a couple of times after her "needed break", she soon became a diabolical demon bitch and broke it off completely. Then she started screwing her ex-boyfriend, a guy who she swore she would never mess with again. Of course after going 6 months of no contact, she finds out I'm screwing this one girl who she sort of knew. She calls me up telling me she still loves me and that she can't believe she went back to her ex. She was telling me that I was a better lover and everything. I believed her bull**** and cut things of with the girl I was seeing because I was thinking I'm getting back with my ex. Of course she flip flops and acts like a bitch again. Needless to say, it was over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AchilleS Posted July 17, 2006 Author Share Posted July 17, 2006 well folks thanks for everything, last night it was officially over, i was like umm we shud just stick with being friends so basically she got the msg that i wanted to dump her, i did not want to be like a back-up sitting there waiting. i saw her today at this function that was being held and i talked to her for a bit but then ended up ditching her for my friends. i want to be her friend but was that unnessary, ditching her? and should i keep on talking to her like calling her/IM'ing her or just cut her off completely? any suggestions on what i should do now since we are officially over.... Link to post Share on other sites
Shane361 Posted July 17, 2006 Share Posted July 17, 2006 I say keep it mild, simple, basic, idle minded, no emotion, no hook ups, no phoning, no emailing...or very little and very broad-Shane Link to post Share on other sites
greenc51 Posted July 25, 2006 Share Posted July 25, 2006 damn man... Link to post Share on other sites
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