deputamadre Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 After reading through the forum I realize I went about trying reconciliation the wrong way. My girlfriend and I had been dating for 2 and half years when we both decided to study abroad, basically on the opposite sides of Europe. During this time apart we were able to assess our relationship. Everything was going well for a few months. She visited me in the second month and everything went well. We spent the week of Easter together and things seemed different. At the end of that week she broke it to me that she no longer wanted to be with me. Reasons being that she had gained a new perspective and now felt different about me. I took her for granted during the relationship. I realize that this was a reason for the breakup. As well as this, being abroad and having constant attention from other guys was a likely factor. She is not angry with me or anything like that and "still wants to be friends." She still loves me, but not in the same way... Post-breakup: I, like an idiot, wanted to remain friends, as did she. We kept up contact through weekly, or more than weekly emails and chatting online. As of recent I've been lessening contact and starting NC. For the first month or so I grovelled, apologized, said I would change, etc etc. I was/am in love with this girl and we spoke of a future together. I still feel strongly for her and would love to reconcile, though realize I was going about it all wrong. She still wants to be friends, as do I because we were best friends, but I know I want something more than she does. I still miss her and believe she was the girl for me. I've been trying to get over her, or at least stop thinking about her and dwelling on the break up. I have great times when I'm out with friends and other girls, but the next day when I wake up I always think about her. I keep busy, meet other women, etc etc, but still end up thinking about my ex. Since last week, both of us are back stateside and far away from each other. She is back home with barely any friends around compared to whilst being abroad. I know she's lonely and she sent me an email last week. I have yet to respond and have decided to initiate NC. I'll be away from her until the end of August when we go back to school. I have multiple classes with her and we have countless mutual friends. Ideally I will keep up this NC until heading back to uni. Once back at school... I have no idea how to deal with the situation. I go to a rather small school and know I will see her around, see her with other guys, and have to talk to her. Should I try to be friends or just get over her? There is nothing I want more to be back together with her, as I still love her.
Author deputamadre Posted July 18, 2006 Author Posted July 18, 2006 She sent me a text message today, which was just a friendly update, nothing relationship related. I'm still keeping up the NC.
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