toonicegirl Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 i know everybody here is talking about NC...i was in NC for like 2 months and he broke it...we're staying in contact but we are not talking about anything serious...just stupid funny messages, sometimes stupid-mean too... and that's it... but my problem is that im afraid of seeing him...i didt see him since the break up (actually we broke up on the phone so last time i saw him two weeks before we split)... we didnt fight a lot face to face...only on the phone...when we were arguing he always knew how to make it up... what i hate is this fear of meeting him somewhere.... he works like 1 min from where i live and there is also a grocery store next door...but im so afraid to go there that i usually go to different store that is like 10 min away... sometimes i feel like im playing a game... i know his work hours (it didnt change) and a car he's driving, so i try to avoid him all the time
morphius Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Your doing the right thing, The whole concept of NC is avoidance. Avoid calling them, avoid meeting them, avoid swinging by their house to see if they are in.... If I had to drive 50 miles to go shopping and avoid my ex's house I would!!! You aren't playing a game you are just doing what you need in order to heal. Keep it up and if you do bump into him be polite but short, tell him you cant stop and chat because your busy and have things to do. Morph
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