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[wow79]

Well where do I start? I have been married five years have two children. My husband started talking to someone that he works with just as friends to start then they started talking on a more non work related issues and came closer together!! They have hung out twice nothing ever got to the point of a sexual relationship. I guess they shared common ground they both were unhappy so they would talk. My husband never told me about any of this. Our relationship is rocky and has been very stressful but we were working though it. I love him and he stated to me that he feels the same. He feel that he didnt think there was gone to be an emotional attraction that would have happened but it did. He has confessed everything to me and wants our relationship to work. Can i ever get over this?

[jmars]

It's a tough call. One can feel very betrayed when their other-half confides in another instead of you.

 

Of course, simple friendship is built on an emotional attraction. And plenty of man and woman can be good friends, but never cross the line.

 

You say that your husband confessed all of this to you. Did you have to uncover the matter prior to the confession? Or did he 'fess up without prompting from you?

 

If he confessed by his own volition, I'd take that as a good sign that bodes well in regards to his stated desire to make his relationship with you work.

 

I've had to deal with my wife having man-friends in the past, and having to deal with my own fears, and feelings of betrayal. However, where honesty is present, one can get over it. Of course, alot depends on the particulars of your situation.

 

Time is generally the best healer. That, and an established pattern of trust, committment, and honesty.

 

Best of luck.