typical Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 ugh...i'm so ready for this to be overwith! lol going home to clean up a little and drink a FEW beers! and it shows. It showed throughout the whole time he was away. It left you with little grace and poise over the whole matter. He probably feels like he is something else, to be able to reduce you to an emotional mess just with his mere absence. You have given him more power than he knows what to do with. Take back a bit of your control. Show him that you are a woman WITH control, not an immature girl that cant stand to be without him for more than 5 minutes. Chances are, you fed right into what he thought you were going to be like, leaving him little to wonder and agonize the way you have been. He probably didnt even entertain a tortured thought or two, imagining you locked in a heated lovers embrace with a man you met hours before in a crowded restaurant/bar. But I bet you did. I bet you had many tortured thoughts concerning him. The insecurity is written in your posts. I can only imagine that he sees this too. It is time to become Jess, the woman of Mystery. Try to hold back some of these insecurities. Tonight, when you are with him, try to get as much information as you can without seeming insecure and then make him take it slow. Dont get me wrong....All of your questions NEED to be answered. But try to go about it as a woman with control and grace. Good Luck.
Author jessssss Posted July 14, 2006 Author Posted July 14, 2006 Typical, I didnt' take your advice all the way, at hte beginning of this. you're the one who told me to wait to break out the other girl to him and that i knew, right?? i'm glad i got it out and overwith and have ahd time to deal with it and not see him...but part of me wishes i had waited due to the points you make. nonetheless, that can't change. i am going to take your advice about becoming the woman of mystery. at my luncheon the guy i went with brought up how he hates being married for only one reason, and that was she wants to know everything and nags...i do't want to get that far. i want to be a good wife/gf and a woman with control and grace. help me!!! lol i mean it! so i need to be comfortable doing what i want to do instead of always going and checking on him whileh e's palying his game and always being the one to decide we're going out to eat and stuff like that? that was just off the top of my head. get as much info without seeming insecure?? that's hard since he obviously is analyzing each question thati have so he can say "you are just tryign to find out if i did anything" or whatever it is he says. i'm going to try hard. do my own thing, we live together so from 6 until bed we are around each other...hang out maybe 2 hours and watch tv and otehr than that we each do our own thing. i love vegging and watching tv and he loves palying his game so that's what we do. not all the time but just an instance. -the woman of mystery
Guest Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 it's me...at home now. I haven't gotten a call fro mmy bf and just wanted to see what everyone thought i should do...got a text apologizing for not calling at 1130am my time nad he said "love you call you in a bit" after he told me he was in class and woke up late. soooo now it's 7pm and i havne't gotten a single call...got about 5 texts about how he's in class and i told him about a new store we just got and he replied and that was it... soooo do i just sit and wait until he gets a chance to call considering it is his last night in his class and prob wrapping up at 5 or 6?? so he may call me at like 9pm-i'm thinking wait until then so i can start my woman of mystery and let him call....but if i don't hear from hi mbefore i go to bed do i text and ask when i need to pickhim up? i don't even know exact time he lands!! surely he'd call and confirm and make sure he knows where to meet me...he was nice to even tell me he was sorry and explain and send a few texts...i'm sure he is busy with class and getting to the airport tonight so do i just chill out, have some beer and relax and if he wants to call he will. he hasn't given me any indication he was mad or anything so why am i reading into this?! i guess cause in a bit, i figure within a couple hours...not 7.5 hrs and still nothing. thanks again!
Walk Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Post back and tell us how it went. You're going to give yourself an ulcer worrying so much. I hope he called you.
Author jessssss Posted July 15, 2006 Author Posted July 15, 2006 well...he called me...i let it go to voicemail..just so i could show him what it felt like. child-like? i dont know but i wanted to see what would happen. just see how he was feeling. he ended up leaving me a voicemail to call him back. he was done with classes and at that time he was sitting waiting another 4 hrs to leave...so it's 1030 here and 730 there he leaves there at 840 and he told me he'd call me a little later...haven't heard from him but i'm just going to wait to see if he calls...again...i'm feeling powerful...feels good..whether i am or not. normally i would have called by now. if i g oto bed and still haven't heard from him i'm goin to text and say have anice flight and i'll see you tomorrow morning..that way i get my peace and he kind ahad something to tink about....is that mean? i'm thinking he'll call me on his way to the airport... ALSO when i talked to him there were people talking loudly in the background and he named off whowas there and i didn't even ask. it's like he could read my mind. made me feel good for him to be open nad talk like that in front of them nad made me think nothing bad. does that make sense? we'll see. i'm being strong and for me not calling or texting i feel great about it . i'm thinking of going on to bed and if he calls fine. if not. fine. that way (this sounds bad) but i have the upper hand....and i know he'll see itthat way. i sound like a bytch! sorry yall. i'm just feeling good about all this right now. it feels good. i've always been the one to be the person who is on top of things and this time i'm leaving it up to him. it's like he needs that right now. maybe he will realize...hope i;'m making sense. going to get another beer then off to bed. post what opinions/advice yiou have. thanks again walk, i really can say i wish we were closer cause you seem like somoene i could have a good time with. can reason and help put me in my place the way i nee dto be, not rude or anything but reasonable.
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