Smung Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Arrrrrgh! I need help again. Ok been in NC for two weeks and my ex keeps sending me emails every week or so to check up on me. I know she doesn’t want to get back together and I KNOW I don’t either, but it seems to set me back when she contacts me. I know that you’ll say ok block the emails, tell her not to contact you! Well, I have… The problem is that I suffer from Nice Guy Syndrome and have a really hard time trying NOT to fix the relationship. I am just looking for some encouragement not to respond as that is what a nice guy would do to the detriment of my own self respect! Thanks, Smung
2020vision Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 The problem is that I suffer from Nice Guy Syndrome and have a really hard time trying NOT to fix the relationship. I know this feeling very well. It is hard to not try to fix something that is broken, especially being so nice. Since I am not a male,I used to suffer from what I like to call "doormat syndrome". I would not call it being nice, I was call it getting used, and who wants to get used? It will do no good at this point to try and repair something with your ex. You broke up for a reason, and in this short time period, I am sure none of it has been fixed. Good for you for doing no contact for 2 weeks straight, but remember, stay strong and ignore the ex. And just for reinforcement, block her.
Author Smung Posted July 14, 2006 Author Posted July 14, 2006 Thanks 2020, Your so right! I was kind of sort of doing NC before. I would not contact my ex, but would respond to messages she would send. That is a mistake people! I would suggest only responding if they write saying, they made huge error in judgement and want to work things out. Anything less and it's just a control game.
2020vision Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 I would suggest only responding if they write saying, they made huge error in judgement and want to work things out. Anything less and it's just a control game. You are correct. And even in the second chance scenario, you have to tread lightly. Remember, break ups happen for a reason and usually that reason does not change. Good luck.
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