Is it bad to think of a girl from your past when you got a gf?

[MichaelIsTaken90]

Hey i was thinking about this girl in my past the other day. Is this bad if you already got a gf. Its not like thinking oh i want to get with this girl its like oh i wondered what would of happened if i went to this girls house before i met my current gf. Oh and is it bad to like masturbate and think of some other girl like a ex gf from your past?

[MichaelIsTaken90]

Come on guys i feel bad cuz i thought about these things for likea few seconds. Is that cheating on something cuz i never did any actions they were just thoughts that randomly went through my head for a second or two

[blind_otter]

No, it's not cheating unless you contemplate actually pursuing your ex while in a new relationship.

 

I've thought about ex's before. Mostly a passing, I wonder what ever happened to so and so, kind of thought. Of course you can't erase that person from your mind, you can't erase them from your past.

[Brittanyjean06]

Well It is very normal to think of " other people " , Such as your ex's to masturbate to.

 

HA I do all the time, I guess all the lust in that relationship is the only thing that can work for me. I think when you masturbate all sorts of wild weird fantasies come out.

 

Well your not only thinking of your ex, but your seeing the what if side of it, and are you not over this girl?

[MichaelIsTaken90]

Im over all my ex's. They dont mean crap to me no more. Im in a 9 month relationship with the girl i love. So thats why i feel guily for getting those thoughts in my head.

[MichaelIsTaken90]

And i feel real bad cuz god knows what Im thinking and might punish me and take her away from me

[Sally00]

And i feel real bad cuz god knows what Im thinking and might punish me and take her away from me

Aww that is so sweet. It's ok. I think you should pray to God and tell Him how you feel. He won't punish you and take her away from you.

 

 

And in response to what other people said, I personally don't masturbate. I would feel weird thinking about an ex if I were to masturbate though...

 

I don't think you should feel guilty thinking about your ex in general. I think about my ex's every now and then, even though I'm in love with my boyfriend. When we first started going out, I would compare him to the other guys. He got tired of it because it made him seem like a God or something. I stopped. Now that we've been together for a while, I don't feel the need to think about my ex's. I'm still good friends with my first ex. And my second... meh, he's just... there. We rarely talk. So whatever. Every now and then I would think what they're up to... just like anybody else.

 

What exactly do you think about when you think about your ex?

[MichaelIsTaken90]

I dont even really think about nothing i was just thinking about like how my ex gave me head way before i knew my current gf. I feel terrible that it happened. My current gf of 9 months doesnt even know that it happened in my past. I dont plan on telling her because its not something for me to be proud about.

[Brittanyjean06]

Your ex gave you head before your present girlfriend? She doesn't need to know that unless you had done this when you were currently seeing this girl. You should not feel bad at all to how you feel, you can't help it ..It's human nature.

 

If you love this girl, than know that you love her and some stupid thoughts won't get between you. You are being a great boyfriend and by showing all this remorce from your conscience shows alot of character in you..Because you know its wrong. Some people don't know its wrong and don't care to think its wrong. Good job

[ILoveDaniel]

It's not necessarily bad if you think of a past girlfriend but I wouldn't exactly call it right to masturbate while thinking of her. Then again, that's just me. I'd kind of think it was disrespectful and hurtful if Daniel masturbated to another woman or thought excessively about another girl. I've often thought about some good times my two ex-boyfriends and I have had together when we were together and still laugh about them but I don't think dirty thoughts about them.

[MichaelIsTaken90]

thanx i feel alot better now. Thats exactly why I dont let my current gf give me head. Cuz after the very first time i let my ex do it in the past before i knew my current gf. It showed me how bad it makes me feel after it happens. And i think its disrespectful to girls to let them give you head whether or not they want to do it. Cuz its degrading to watch your own gf that you love so much suck you on your private area where your waste comes out aka pee.

[Brittanyjean06]

awww thats very sweet, well if you look at it in a degrading way than it is degrading. But are you willing to go down on your girlfriend and feel fine doing it.

 

Don't feel ashamed or bad but I respect that you find it disrespectful towards a girl very polite may I say:)

[blind_otter]

thanx i feel alot better now. Thats exactly why I dont let my current gf give me head. Cuz after the very first time i let my ex do it in the past before i knew my current gf. It showed me how bad it makes me feel after it happens. And i think its disrespectful to girls to let them give you head whether or not they want to do it. Cuz its degrading to watch your own gf that you love so much suck you on your private area where your waste comes out aka pee.

 

It's disrespectful to pleasure each other? Ooooookkkkaaaaaayyyy.....

 

I've never in my life, even in catholic school, met someone who thought any kind of sexual activity was dirty or disgusting unless they were molested when they were younger.

[Ukwizard]

Nah, its not wrong to think of exs. We humans as a species have this beauty to think ahead. Its called a conscience. After all we wouldn`t be human with out it.

 

I guess we all think about exs in any given one time. Maybe its something in a certain situation, or a certain smell that can trigger our memories.

 

Its not cheating thinking about them, but actively seeking and trying to get back with them while dating someone else does constitute as cheating.