waitingforlove Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Hey I have a question: Does the dumper feel hurt at all? I'm thinking ... if the dumper really doesn't feel any emotions, why can he/she be so annoyed with the dumpee in some cases? Besides anger, do they feel hurt as well?
littlekitty Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Often I would imagine the over riding emotion they feel is guilt. But guilt can present itself as anger, hurt, and many other emotions. I have felt guilty for hurting someone else, just simply by letting them go out of my life because it wasn't working out. Sometimes no doubt the dumper will feel hurt too. If it was a significant relationship, it might not be easy to let go, regardless of how much it may be the right thing to do.
morphius Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Waiting, I think this is a damn fine question, Bit of a shame that there aren't that many replies. I think that yeah the dumper prob does hurt or feel guilty to a certain degree, I've never been the dumper(lol) so wouldn't know. I guess that like all of us even they feel a certain amount of human morality. Nobody actualy likes ripping someone elses heart in two do they!!
Author waitingforlove Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 Thanks for your replies!! It sucks, though, that even if the dumper has any negative emotions, he/she might completely pretend that the break up doesn't bother him/her .... so then it makes the dumpee feel like it's all their fault ....
spinnelli Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 I think the dumper mostly just feel guilt and they feel it more if you, as the dumpee, is constantly in their face, after the break up. See as a dumper, they've grieved and sometimes even moved on emotionally from the relationship, before the actually dumping takes place. I broke up with an ex once, who I was over six months before I actually initiated the break up. We were together when I had my doubts, and anger and acceptance and all the steps a break up entails before I actually told him that it was over. So when we broke up, it was easier for me to move on, all I had was guilt to deal with. I'm not proud of it ofcourse, that was a mean thing to do to someone. But half the time, a dumper seems like they don't care because they've gotten over you before they actually break up with you.
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