jerseydrive86 Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Hey everybody. I'm new to this site and would like some advice. My girl and i were datin for about months. i know thats a short time but over those few months i fell in love wit her. Everything was goin good; Went out all the time, went out to eat, talk on the phone all day, sex was good, you name it we had. The only thing wrong was that i took her for granet<(I think i spelled that wrong). There were times where i didnt call her, ignored her, yelled at her but, refused to have sex with her,ect. I never meant to hurt her though, she's just a very emotional person and i didnt take her seriuosly. She required alot more attention than i thought and it made her upset that i wasn't giving it to her. Finally about three weeks ago she broke up with me. Honestly i didnt think i'd lose her because she was so attached to me so i never really thought about what it would be like if i wasnt wit her, but now that she's not my shorty i feel horrible, word up! She told me she loved me but she had to get herself together and that we could still be friends and maybe later on down the line we could start over. I understand where she's comin from it just hurts deep down because i fell in love with her and i didnt realize it till after we broke up. All i know is i need to get my shorty back. She tells me that she 's not interested in anybody but i know she's just sayin that to make me feel better. We all know that when a person is single there is always a possibility that they could find somebody else.I know she's the one for me and i'm gonna do better and not take her for granet. I miss her dearly and would love to have her back. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks!!
MacGyver Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Did you ever sit down and think why you took her for granted? More so, why you refused to have sex or screamed at her etc... Maybe there is something you dont want to admit to yourself. Anyways, its better that it didnt work out so soon into the relationship than if it were to happen years down the track. Yes you say your going to do better, and change but i would advise that you first figure out why you... There were times where i didnt call her, ignored her, yelled at her but, refused to have sex with her,ect.
Author jerseydrive86 Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 Did you ever sit down and think why you took her for granted? More so, why you refused to have sex or screamed at her etc... Maybe there is something you dont want to admit to yourself. Anyways, its better that it didnt work out so soon into the relationship than if it were to happen years down the track. Yes you say your going to do better, and change but i would advise that you first figure out why you... I took her for granted because i didnt want to fall for anybody else because i've been hurt alot in the past. I was just datin her to be datin her but i fell in love, i couldnt help it. Now i'm tryin to get her back. What should i do?
littleME123 Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Have you thought: Maybe you only want her back so badly now, because you can't have her? Do you REALLY want to be with her? Because it sounds like you didn't, when you had her.
Author jerseydrive86 Posted July 14, 2006 Author Posted July 14, 2006 Have you thought: Maybe you only want her back so badly now, because you can't have her? Do you REALLY want to be with her? Because it sounds like you didn't, when you had her. I never really thought about it like that. Its not that i didnt want to be with her it was just that we did nt share the same feelings for each other. Now that my true feelings for her have surfaced i know i need to get her back one way or another. This is helping out alot. c'mon people more advice please;)
MacGyver Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 As the saying goes, "You dont know what you have 'till its gone". And as much as this is the case for you, i see that from the way you talk, the relationship wasnt for you. I dare say that maybe you just didnt have the balls to break-it-up yourself! I dont know, either way, just stay strong and try to move on. No point crying over spilt milk!
BareGoddess Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Treat the next one better. Sounds like you've lost her. I would have left and not gone back either if my b/f screamed at me and withheld sex just to be mean. Maybe this will make you grow up. P.S. Did she like being called "Shorty?"
Author jerseydrive86 Posted July 14, 2006 Author Posted July 14, 2006 Treat the next one better. Sounds like you've lost her. I would have left and not gone back either if my b/f screamed at me and withheld sex just to be mean. Maybe this will make you grow up. P.S. Did she like being called "Shorty?" Today we hung out and she gave me a big kiss and told me she still had feelings for me. This lets me know there is still a chance for us. I just want to know some ways or techniques to get her back. C'mon please help me out me out her. I love her. (And yeah she loved being called shorty)
BareGoddess Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Today we hung out and she gave me a big kiss and told me she still had feelings for me. This lets me know there is still a chance for us. I just want to know some ways or techniques to get her back. C'mon please help me out me out her. I love her. (And yeah she loved being called shorty) Don't do any of the things you used to do that drove her away. Treat her like you really love her. People who love each other don't scream at each other. If they have problems they talk it out. Treat her the way YOU want her to treat YOU. It sounds like she may be giving you a second chance. Tell her that you want to show her that you do deserve a second chance. And then SHOW her by being nice. Don't just SAY you'll treat her better, DO it. If you don't the next time you may not get a second chance. Why don't you ask her out to dinner and tell her some of what you've told us here. That you love her and didn't mean to take her for granted and that you won't do that anymore.
Author jerseydrive86 Posted July 15, 2006 Author Posted July 15, 2006 Don't do any of the things you used to do that drove her away. Treat her like you really love her. People who love each other don't scream at each other. If they have problems they talk it out. Treat her the way YOU want her to treat YOU. It sounds like she may be giving you a second chance. Tell her that you want to show her that you do deserve a second chance. And then SHOW her by being nice. Don't just SAY you'll treat her better, DO it. If you don't the next time you may not get a second chance. Why don't you ask her out to dinner and tell her some of what you've told us here. That you love her and didn't mean to take her for granted and that you won't do that anymore. Thanks alot baregoddess! I plan to take her out to eat friday. I believe it'll go well i just hope it'll bring us closer together. Ya'll pray for me because i really want this to work out. Thanks!
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