Guest Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 well it was a nasty break up, long story short. here's what happened. we have broken up weeks ago but we started talking then we became close "friends" but still doing what a couples do (kissing, sex etc). one night i went by her house n saw some guy that i know at her house. Confronted her and she said "It's non of your concern rather i like him or not" since me n her are jus "friends". (more s*** happened but i am not gonna get to it) So i left and didn't bother to look back. 2 days after, she called but i didn't pick up (she called more than 7 times that day). then a week or so later (now), she called at 10-11pm n left a message saying she wants to pick up her stuff. But i ignored it, tonite she IM'ed me saying "hey can i pick up my stuff", but i was away. so the question is, what should i do? Drop her s*** off infront of her door w/o seeing her or text her to pick it up herself tmr?
Craig Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 so the question is, what should i do? Drop her s*** off infront of her door w/o seeing her or text her to pick it up herself tmr?If it isn't a lot of stuff and it isn't out of your way, drop it off without seeing her. If it is a lot of stuff and/or it is out of your way get her or one of her friends to pick it up. THEN Do a search on "NC" or "No Contact" on loveshack and read about why NC is so important.
justpassingthrough Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 If it isn't a lot of stuff and it isn't out of your way, drop it off without seeing her. If it is a lot of stuff and/or it is out of your way get her or one of her friends to pick it up. THEN Do a search on "NC" or "No Contact" on loveshack and read about why NC is so important. Hold up, Craig. Why should this fella miss an opportunity to get laid? They've been having sex 'n stuff since the breakup. He said so. OP, were you lead to believe the "broke up" part was over and you two were back together and exclusive or something?
Craig Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Hold up, Craig. Why should this fella miss an opportunity to get laid? Because no puxxy is worth it. Are you on a boat?
morphius Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 then we became close "friends" but still doing what a couples do (kissing, sex etc). Dude, she is messing with your head, I would drop off her s**t on her doorstep when I knew she wouldnt be there, then initiate NC. If you have broken up you've broken up, you can't keep sleeping together you are only prolonging the pain, and you can't move on until you cut these ties. Morph
Violet87 Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 An ex is an Ex for a reason. I think dropping contact will do you some good. Because You two have broken up and yet you're still doing things couples do such as having sex, kissing you've allowed yourself to be put into the "friends with benefits" category, which doesn't promise commitment and she's allowed to see other people. By continueing to do things such as kiss, sex (and other stuff couples do), you're staying attached to the girl and not giving yourself the chance to move on. Let her come get her stuff, but afterwards I would suggest starting "no contact".
Guest Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Thanks guys for the help. Here's an update. She called yesterday and i picked up because i knew she wants to pick her stuff up and jus wanted to know when. I told her nicely that it iwll be outside the door step but instead she told me to "grow up, stop being immature" and "i don't want to pick up stuff off the street", "it's not civilized". I told her if she doen'st want ot pick it up herself, she can find a friend to do so. She said something and hung up on me, but it didn't bother me a bit. she called again at 2:30 in the morning and i jus ignored it. today she called again around noon but i was sleeping, then the guy that was in her house last time IM'ed my brother sayin he's gonna come. i made sure i wasn't home becuase i don't wanna see rather she's wiht him or not. He came, picked up the stuff n left.
justpassingthrough Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Are you on a boat? Uh, uh. Although I suppose if I close my eyes and wish real hard......
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