Just started wanting to date but dont know what to do

[newbutconfused21]

I need help real bad. I just started wanting to date and now that im ready ive found like my whole life there's no one for me. There have been different guys over the years. But I could never closed the deal. I just turned 21 and i would like to have a boyfriend. Have someone to spend time with and that they want to be with me too. So thats one problem how can i be more attractive or how can i stop the shy girl act.

 

Now heres another problem, at my job there is someone that i like. We hang out and talk on the phone sometimes. This person has a girlfriend so i say. They tell me that their not together but heres this they have a place together. We always give eachother the eye like we cant wait to be together again but this person is so far from what im not. I dont know what to do.

 

signed newbutconfused21:confused:

[quankanne]

welcome to the 'shack, dear

 

only think I can think of to help break the ice since you're shy is to maybe join in group events that involve him. Like if a bunch of folks are going dancing after work, and he's going, join in. That also gives you a bit of a chance to get to know him and his situation better. And build up your confidence so that when the time is right, you can ask him out on a date because you know he's free to date, you know you do okay interacting with him and it's not as scary as trying to date right off.

 

this person is so far from what im not.

 

not sure what you mean by this statement, so I'm going to take a guess by saying you don't know if y'all are compatible because you see the differences between you. If that's the case, don't let it concern you just yet. You've got to get to know someone a little better to determine whether or not a relationship (even a friendship starts out this way) will work. If he's giving you the eye, he's interested to some degree!