llnc16 Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 im kinda confused here...and im sure there are PLENTY of others out there who are confused about playing hard to get as well....so maybe we can all help each other out....
norajane Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 Playing hard to get and being hard to get are two different things. Some guys want a girl who has a life of her own, friends, interests, activities...not a girl who will make him the sole important thing in her life, so a girl who is hard to get is more likely to be attractive to him. Some guys also like a challenge, they like to pursue. Some guys would much rather have a girl who is easier to get...they are the kind of guys who call and text ALL the time, or are the ones who are more into having the relationship and than she is. Playing hard to get is just a game, and one that a girl can't keep up for too long because she is really yearning inside to be with him, and is something he'll see through soon enough anyway.
Shane361 Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Wow...nice question and it could spawn into many anwsers. I think that alot of people simply want what they can't have. I see this in woman since thats what I date. When they get it...they dont want it cause its now known or had. Not all people are like this of course but I believe it to be common. I myself dont chase woman. I'll give subtle hints and leave the next step to them. I date mostly the aggressive woman that come after me. The best looking lady of my life liked me cause I made no interest in her when all the other guys were drooling. I am just not an aggressive guy. I may be lazy or simply not overly impressed with people not knowing them well in the first place. So for me..I dont like it. I rather not put myself out on the limb more than I have to. That may be my insecurities or that I believe after making my interest known I've done my part. You might even find the guys that really like the challenge of getting you after you playing hard to get are not the caliber of guys you want in the first place. Then again..that might be the excitement your looking for in the first place. But in the end...it feels like games to me and I'm not in high school anymore-Shane
Curmudgeon Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 "Playing" is a key word. That makes it a game and I'm not into game-playing at all, especially not when it involves emotions. BEING hard to get is another thing, and I do love a challenge. My wife had been divorced and single for 18 years and was the proverbial Ice Maiden when I first met her. It wasn't a game at all. It was very real. I was patient and in the end I "won" the prize but there was no gaming involved.
stoopid_guy Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 It depends on the guy, of course. Personally, I don't like it. I want a friend, not a conquest. Yes, I'll put forth a lot of effort to please a lady and make her smile, but that's only as long as I think the interest is mutual. A good relationship is a mutual admiration society. I'm paying her a compliment by asking her out, and she's (hopefully) paying me a compliment by saying "yes."
alphamale Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 if anything in life comes too easily then its value will be decreased...
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 Well that just depends on how hard you are playing with " playing hard to get " . I dont necesarily think guys like when girls play hard to get. But they are prone to subcounsly want you more. Hope that makes sense !
Meaplus3 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 im kinda confused here...and im sure there are PLENTY of others out there who are confused about playing hard to get as well....so maybe we can all help each other out.... It's called the thrill of the chase and it's VERY addictive!! MM and I have played this game for month's. YES playing hard to get in my option does make it seem more appealing but I guess it all depends on what you are after. What's your motive here?
Blackfrost Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 Playing hard to get works for some guys, for others, they'll just walk away - there's plenty of other people in the world.
RecordProducer Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 When they get it...they dont want it cause its now known or had. I myself dont chase woman. I'll give subtle hints and leave the next step to them. I date mostly the aggressive woman that come after me. The best looking lady of my life liked me cause I made no interest in her when all the other guys were drooling. I am just not an aggressive guy. Wow! This is an example of how the approaching strategy can define the type of relationship that you might not necessarily ask for. You don't chase women and due to that (lack of) action, you get aggressive women who easily get bored of you. Perhaps you ARE compatible with a more aggressive woman, but certainly not with those who don't want you after they got you.
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