precious99 Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 Does anyone else experience this? I am in a relationship with a great guy. But (there's always a but!) we only ever make out when it is going to lead to sex. Is this weird? I mean he is cuddly and holds my hand and stands close to me but when it is time for him to go home it is a quick kiss goodbye and thats it. Am I over analyzing this? I really miss the way it was when he couldn't stay off of me....anyone with any feelings on this?
mika Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 wow. i am so glad you posted this. i have felt the same way. i even told my boyfriend that it irritates me that the only time he ever touches me (in that way) is when he is ready for sex. like he never just touches me anymore. we never makeout to just make out! i like to make out. i don't know why it's that way but your are not the only one.
norajane Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 When were you doing all this making out? Was it before you started having sex? It's pretty typical for guys to connect making out and having sex, so he might not even think to separate the two activities once you've crossed the sex boundary. And the fact is, they get hard when they make out, so it doesn't necessarily make sense to guys to 'just make out' without it leading to sex. You can try to change things by taking the initiative...start making out with him when you want to. For example, if you're on your way to dinner, make out in the car for a while before going in to the restaurant. If you know he's going to be leaving your place shortly, start making out with him before it's time to say goodbye. Don't wait for him to do it, because guys generally have no idea what kinds of things you enjoy.
bab Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 You are not the only one. My husband is naturally the same way. If we aren't going to have sex, kisses are just pecks. Our wedding kiss was even closed mouth. He is very good at hugs and holding me though. He knows that more passionate kisses is something that I miss, so every now and then he makes the extra effort to make sure I get some more passionate kisses. And the fact that it doesn't happen often makes it even more like a treat, and so lots of fun. Let your bf know that you want this on occassion and see if it gets better.
Sally00 Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 So he makes out with you only when it leads to sex... Solution: Don't encourage that behavior. Make-out to just make-out. Don't give into the sex. That simple.
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