magichands Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Andy has been curiously silent... He has probably got his hands full with a nice pair of melons. And I don't mean a threesome.
BareGoddess Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Andy has been curiously silent... You scared him off with that ridiculous melon talk! That, or he went to get a melon!
MrDarcy Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Johan, you rule! Andy, watch porn to get an idea of the general anatomical principles of sex. (Though some of the positions used in porn movies are generally for illustrative purposes.) When you one day attempt to have sex, do not attempt to replicate, reproduce or mimic porn. That'll screw things up. Sex does not work like in porn. For example, in real life the female sex drive is usually only 0.01% of the male sex-drive, so don't expect women to want sex as much as you do. When it comes to sex, you'll just have to feel your way (literally), and do what comes natural. What a lot of young people today seems to have forgotten is that sex actually involves feelings. When it comes to describing what sex feels like, it's like Moai says, when imagining how it feels you can only compare it to feelings you already know, and that doesn't really cover it.
magichands Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 What a lot of young people today seems to have forgotten is that sex actually involves feelings. Hear, hear!!!! "Casual" sex is really a misnomer.
Lennox Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Info from Planned Parenthood is pretty accurate and to the point about the issue that you're inquiring about. Please, whatever you do, don't rely on porn to base your perception of what the reality of a sexual relationship is like. It's just fantasy, much like how we women might fantasize about some knight in full armor that looks like a young Fabio come and sweep us off our feet the first time we have intercourse. It's unrealistic and if you depend on what you see in porn in order to try to figure out how to please a woman, you'll never get to where you need to go. Other than that, your parental units should be able to provide you with quality input
HeyYouGuys Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Hope I'm not thread drifting too much... but i remember being in 'Health' class in 8th grade and one of the students asked our teacher EXACTLY what Andy asked Loveshack members. "What does sex feel like?" The teacher stood there, bright red with her mouth hanging open, unsure as to what answer to give the student. It's so funny, but I'm sure each and every one of us were burning with the same curiosity. I remember being 12 and wondering, wondering, wondering what it would be like...how old I'd be when I had it.... It's not easy being young and pumped full of hormones. NOBODY would ever answer that question directly. So we were left with books like 'Wifey' and 'Forever' (by Judy Blume). Those books circulated the entire 8th grade and about half the pages were dog-eared and highlighted. Our other option was the bland 'Healthy Teen' textbook which told us, "Sexual relations between a married man and woman are a very private, special time which can help foster feelings of trust, intimacy and love" We understood that the penis gets hard and the vagina gets lubricated, but that did little to quell the burning, churning curiosity about "Why do I have such crazy dreams? Did I give myself an orgasm with the shower head? Why did that happen? Why do boys want to touch my parts?" Kids are given such mixed messages about sex. On the one had, it's so in their face....MTV, Maxim magazine with crotch-forward-thrusting models, etc On the other hand, adults get all flustered and squeamish when asked directly, "So..what does it feel like?" which gives the impression that this is nasty business indeed. I don't have a direct answer for young Andy here as I myself feel awfully flustered about telling a teen boy (young enough to be my son!) what sex feels like. Sorry Andy, it's social conditioning. What I'd suggest is that you take life as it comes. Your body is old enough for sex but your mind is still young and not yet able to fully grasp what mature sex is like between two loving adults. Your experiences as a young man will be different from your experiences as an older man. The mechanics are basically the same, but the emotional gamut you run through changes the sexual experience every time. There's hot sex. Bland sex. Blah sex. Bad sex. Awesome sex. Weird sex. You have a lot to look forward to.
pinkprincess Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 i don't consider it as SEX.. i consider it making love... it was the greatest and best feeling in the world doing it with the person you truly love and honor.
JamesM Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Truthfully, the feelings of sex in the mechanical sense are not much different than when you use your hand. Let's be honest....this is reality. What distinuguishes masturbation and sex with another person is the foreplay, emotions, and passion that go along with it. Nothing can compare to the feel of a woman (my POV), the quiver of her response, and her complete love and surrender. If the woman that you are with loves you and is turned on by you, then it makes the experience much better. If not, you may as well go to a hooker. If the woman is beautiful, then each portion of her body that you uncover and explore (whether for the first time or much more often), will be a visual experience that cannot be explained. If you think the person looks ugly, then your hand will be more pleasure. From a guy's POV, if you think this woman looks incredible, but do not take the time to experience all of the feelings prior to the actual orgasm nor take the time to make sure that SHE experiences complete satisfaction, then the "climax" is nothing more than a mechanical release. The reason that sex cannot be explained to your satisfaction is because the feelings are not only different for each person, they are different with each person. If you watch porn (don't, it will ruin your future experiences), you can only see what others are doing. It will excite you, and give you a rush, but that climax is only a small part. Touching, kissing, and watching the response of your partner gives much more satisfaction than just the climax. However, if you try to experience this feeling prior to finding someone whom you love and who truly loves you, it will be a disappointment. I think that you will need to wait. The feelings are not near as awesome as you currently think in your mind...ie the mechanics, but they are more awesome than you are thinking in another sense...the emotions, passion, and mutual love that is exchanged. True love makes sex much more pleasurable than a porn movie.
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