Parrishva Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 Have been dating for about 8 months and living together for about 3. She spends hours apon hours every day chatting online. At first I just thought it was her way of relaxing or staying in touch with her out of town friends. Now I see more and more since we have been living together that she is obsessed with online chatting. She has a whole community of friends who she has never met in person. If I walk in the room when she is online she closes the screen before I get too close.( very suspicious ) She will not tell me about any of the content of these conversations. She also told me the other day that some of these poeple know more about her and know her closer then I do. Now this is poeple who she has never met before. This particular comment really drove me crazy and I think I want to smash the home computer into dust. After reading some horror stories on here about wives and GF who met other people online this situation has really got me concerned.
Sally00 Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 I don't see why she has to hide conversations from you. I mean, I had my boyfriend over and my ex (who I'm still really good friends with) messaged me. We talked for a little bit. I had no problem telling my boyfriend our conversation, even if it wasn't even much we were talking about. Because there is nothing going on between my ex and I. Your girlfriend is acting pretty suspicious, like you said. I think you should talk to her about it. Let her know how you feel. Ask her why she covers the screen when you come in the room and why she's acting like that... it only naturally makes you worried. I personally don't like chatting it up with people online that I don't even know. Does she have more online "friends" than she does REAL friends?
MarnieGirl Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 i think it's annoying when people have to know everything you're talking about to someone else. i don't share my online conversations with friends with my fiance either. it's just like being on the phone and having someone sit there and listen in. again, though, i don't talk to strangers in private conversation. that being said, it's sketchy that your girlfriend goes to that length to hide it from you, and says these people know her better than you. if i were you, next time she says that, tell her to get off the computer and come hang out with you so you can know her better than some online strangers.
magichands Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 She also told me the other day that some of these poeple know more about her and know her closer then I do. Now this is poeple who she has never met before. This particular comment really drove me crazy and I think I want to smash the home computer into dust. I understand your frustration with the computer - but harming her "friend" will not do you any favours. You need to get online and start chatting to her. If you think she won't go for that, then choose a false name. Then you will get to know all this cool intimate stuff about her much more quickly than if you stick to boring face to face chilling. But seriously now - that's a pretty hurtful comment, but I think you are getting things out of proportion here. Like you say - she hasn't even met them. Maybe, if you make yourself more "available" emotionally to her (just by doing more listening - and REALLY listening), then she may start to get some of whatever she's getting from her online deep-and-meaningful buddies from YOU instead. Be careful not to step on her online toes. It seems quite important to her.
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