MissTiss Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 Question. In today's society is it possible to date someone for a longer period of time and not have sex? I am 27, have slept with two men in my life and I lost my virginity in my early 20s. I waited a very long time with one and not so long with the other. My parent always brought me up to believe that sex is a serious act, not to be taken lightly and that is probably the only lesson that I have retained. I have only had sex with someone I love. I am not wired for casual sex, so please no comments about that. My question is this... I am torn up about having to start all over with another person and then sleep with them and it not work out. It's hard to explain unless you are in my head, but I feel like sex isn't a step I am willing to take anymore unless the relationship is VERY solid. Are there others who feel like me without being the bible beating type? Or am I just screwed? Speaking of Solid.... Is it possible a guy can be in a relationship and not be sexual? Please, guys and girls both answer.
Asafan Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 It is not hard to understand at all and I admire you for your conviction. If the guy really cares about you, he will wait a while. For me I would be willing to wait, as long as I knew that at some point in the future it would lead to a fulfilling sexual relationship as well. You will certainly weed out the wheat from the chaff with this attitude that's for sure.
Sally00 Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 Yes... it is VERY possible to date someone for a long time and not have sex. I plan on not having sex with my boyfriend till marriage. We have been together for almost 6 months. He's done it with someone before. They were together for 2 1/2 years. I'm still a virgin. He knows this and totally respects it. But... there are a lot of times when I just want to do it... we always tease around.. We naturally have urges, but I refuse to give in. It is not going to be easy to wait till marriage, but I plan on waiting. Sex IS a serious act. Trust me, I'm not the church-going type either. But I do believe in God and should obey Him. We should all fear Him. He says sex is a natural act... but is only meant for marriage. It is for 2 people who are in love with each other and have made that marriage committment. Sex also gets you more emotionally attached to the person. It can make everything more complicated. And it can also make it a lot harder if ya'll break up. And you say "I feel like sex isn't a step I am willing to take anymore unless the relationship is VERY solid." Girl, you can never tell if a relationship is SOLID until you two get married. Yeah, you thought you had a solid relationship before (when you lost your virginity). Now look. SOLID is MARRIAGE. And when you ask if it's possible for a guy to be in a relationship without being sexual......... that's impossible. Because holding hands, kissing, hugging, etc. THAT'S sexual. If you mean if it's possible for a guy to be in a relationship without HAVING SEX, yes, that is very possible. My boyfriend is that guy right now.
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