norajane Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 As I have since said to others, she says the whole thing was never about sex. She said that she could not understand how her putting her breasts in my mouth could possibly indicate that she is interested in sex. Which to me is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. Well, it sounds like she was just being playful and affectionate, and you interpreted it as a sexual overture and were then pissed off when it turned out not to be. Tell her you're ok with a playful girlfriend outside the bedroom, but if she does anything like that in bed, you expect sex. And, voila! No more tasty nipple kisses before bed for you...hope that makes you happy.
clandestinidad Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Just a suggestion: I'm not saying that you're doing this, just cautioning.....I dont recommend discussing this at length, repeatedly with her. It might turn her off to initiating sex or playful activities, since one time she was 'just being playful' and 'not interested in sex' and it resulted in a big deal that ya'll talked about 3-4 times. (though, yes, you're rightfully irritated by it) I cant think of any reason a person would put their boobs in your mouth and think nothing sexual about it.....either she's extremely sexually naive or refusing to admit what she did. I dont think anyone could really be that dumb.
clandestinidad Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Ooops....I just read that she's done this before, and that its been an issue in the relationship.... well, to that I say HMPH! Its very inconsiderate, especially if she knows how it makes you feel! I like the earlier suggestion: about telling her that it makes you feel turned on and then rejected/unwanted, etc. What have you told her about it before?? (i'm sorry, I'm not feeling very helpful about this right now...I think I should go to bed)
Author john2776 Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 Tell her you're ok with a playful girlfriend outside the bedroom, but if she does anything like that in bed, you expect sex. And, voila! No more tasty nipple kisses before bed for you...hope that makes you happy. Yes this would make me happy! If she knows before she does it that its not going anywhere, then don't do it. Its not like Im starving for sexual attention, we have a brilliant sex life. So if one night in a month I don't get a nipple in my mouth, I will not complain!!
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