Guest Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 For example: Both parties promise not to have sex with anyone for a certain amount of time after the breakup. Do you think deals like these are just meant to comfort one of the two parties or do you think it's a serious thing? Does it depend onthe girl/guy?
MacGyver Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 Through my own experience, it means nothing. I was told she wouldnt see other people because she had hope for us, but it was all said while she was emotional. I know this because i've said things to her when i was emotional which i now have changed my mind about. (its only been 2 weeks since breakup) I just think that if a relationship gets to a point where a break up occurs, its over. Break ups should not happen, and unfortunetally 9 times out of 10, having the same relationship after a break up is like trying to stand up in a hammock. Your going to get hurt.
Devrapunzel Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 Hmmm...not so sure I completely agree with MacGyver...it's a case-by-case scenario. It depends strongly on WHY you broke up which also is strongly dependent on if it would work out the next time around. We needmore info. on your situation. My ex-fiance and I currently have a deal going (his ideal btw). He doesn't sleep with other women (not that I thought he would) and I don't initiate closure on our mortgage (long story - you'd have to read all of my posts). So to answer your question, I think it is both things: I think this "deal" is out there as a comfort while we both take the time to think about things in a serious manner. It is definitely not closure to begin the process of moving forward which sucks. It hurts to wait during the "deal", but if you have some legitimate reason to need the time, then go ahead. In other words, if you think the BOTH of you actually have something to gain from the "deal", then it couldn't hurt. Hell, it might be kind of nice knowing the other person isn't with someone else. But, if it's just going to prolong the ineveitable, then cards are down. No more deal. What are the specifics of your situation?
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