simona Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Here is my story, I am a 30 years old attractive woman- lawyer , married with kid. Some time last year, I met this guy, mid forties very attractive and smart , he is my boss and the partner who happens to be married and has kids too. He interviewed me and I landed this job in a prestigious law firm. He was very nice during the interview . I accepted the offer and I have been there ever since. I feel that this guy who happens to me my boss is attracted to me, but I am not sure. He is very caring and flexible. He lets me leave early and asks me if I want to leave early all the time. I told him that I had to work late and weekend once and he said that I should not have to do that. He said he was sorry. My heart sank , when he said that. He stares at me in my eyes all the time.He was in a meeting in a conference hall and he stares at me as I walk in the hallway. He makes it obivious. He does not take his eyes off me. He even turns back as is walking to look at me. I love his attention. Last time I had a meeting with him and I noticed that he was looking at my boobs for a while. I know he knew that I was starting at him but he did it on purpose . Then he slowly looked in my eyes . Our eyes met and I felt chemistry. Does he like me or is this just coincidence? Please help, I have not been able to sleep since then. Simona
Vichygrl Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 He's interested alright, but honey this is the wrong kind of attention. He is married and you don't want the drama of a married man let alone one you work with. Your playing with fire.
Guest Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 He just wants sex! He is a man and just wants to play with you and that is it.
stillafool Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 Don't do it. He knows very well what he's doing and he knows it's turning you on. I can guarantee you this guy is smooth and has done this dozens of times before. I think you should get him straight right away. If he is a partner you certainly don't want to start sleeping with him. Imagine how uncomfortable it will be when you have get-togethers. No way, male attorneys can be some of the biggest rogues.
Author simona Posted July 12, 2006 Author Posted July 12, 2006 Thank You guys for the advice, I will try to stay away from him . I love my son dearly and want to have a happy family. I have no desire to ruin his family life too . But it is really hard when we have to work together since I come in contact with him all the time. I admit that he is attractive and turns me on , but I will stay focus and ignore his seductive ways. I have been thinking of joining a different team , in the same company.
alfagrl Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 This is his way to make SURE you know that he wants you sexually (long stares, staring at your chest, looking back to watch you walk away) this is all ploys to get your attention. He is doing all this to see if you respond. If you do, which it seems like you are, then he will take it further. It will start with innocent flirting, then overt flirting, maybe lunches together, which would lead to after work drinks...then a full date. If you don't want to trouble then don't respond to his advances. You mentioned you loved your son, I also am guessing you love your husband too? Don't bother with this guy from work. Plus you just got hired do you really think its a good idea to start Effing your boss? My guess is you'll go before he does.
ThumbingMyWay Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 I admit that he is attractive and turns me on , but I will stay focus and ignore his seductive ways. I have been thinking of joining a different team , in the same company. just because you have "chemistry" doesnt mean you have to act on it. I feel chemistry with women too....but I am married and would never jepordize that. It feels good enough right inside my mind and body. and moving to another team would be a good idea. i get the feeling this man is a pro-seducer. I know some of them......in fact one of them reeled in my wife and I am 2 years into post affair life and believe me...it is not fun. I will say this again.....just because someone pays attention to you and you feel chemistry...dont let your selfishness say its ok to act on it cause it feels good. You are married with a child and your young....think about them before you think about the grass on the otherside.
Shane361 Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Everthing that should be said has been said. At this point nothing whatsoever good can come of this. The possible drama is devastating! So not worth the sex! What if you got pregnant by him? What if you two got caught? What if you two fell in love and then divorces etc etc. If he wanted you to see him looking then as mentioned he is fishing for responses. If he was a good person he would have been embarresed for being caught! He is dirty so do the rite thing for your family and yourself-Shane
Author simona Posted August 8, 2006 Author Posted August 8, 2006 Thanks everyone . It has been a while since I last posted. Here are my updates. I requested to change my team but that did not go through. I was told that I will have to stick to my current position for a year. Anyways, I am doing my best to avoid him . It is really hard. It is on and off all the time. I see him everywhere. I have started meditation and I hope it helps me . I am going crazy. I am a matured woman and I want peace in my life, but he seduces me all the time and it is driving me nuts. Here are some of my recent developments. He asked if I was taking vacation. I said yes. He asked me all the details. I said to West coast with my family. He blushed and he did not like what I said. He did not speak to me for a while after I came back from vacation. I was to get something done from him last week. I did not realize that he was gone for vacation. I told his secretary that we needed to get something for the client , she called him and he came to work while he was supposed to be on vacation. He did not mention that he was on vacation. What is this? Why did he not mention that to me ? I would not have ruined his vacation? I truly wish that he sorts things out with his family. I have seen his kids and his wife. They are all beautiful. He seems to be a nice guy too. I wish him well and I will never cheat on my husband too. But why would a stable man , who seem to have a happy married life from outside, try to seduce me ? I am only 30 where as he is 46? I mean the age difference. We are both from two different worlds, I was not born here, I am from Brazil , have a different look and he is white american guy. Is it because he thinks I am from a different country too naive and he can use me ? It makes me sick when I think of all these things. In a nutshell, he is attractive so am I. He is pulling me with some magnetic force and I am loosing my mind and my sleep over. Deep inside I know nothing good will come out of this . I will never cause pain to his and my family. But sometimes I wonder what would it feel like to make love to him. I mean , I will never do it . I was a virgin when I got married and I have only slept with one guy in my life. My husband had done it with a few before he met me. Is that why I feel so strongly about this guy.Have any of the ladies slept with just one partner and felt that way ? I know it is not love. Please help me guys, I want to ask you all. Do you guys get attracted to people of different race? Also he knows that I am too attached to my family. I would neverjeopardize my family at any cost. And please do not abuse me for being honest, I have not wronged anyone.There is no one to talk to at home and that is why I am seeking help you all.
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