beentheredonethat2 Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 This probably should be under an "escape from abuse" category, but I didn't see one. Boy meets girl, boy gets jealous, boy rips clothes, stalks, ruins computer, and hits. Boy lies, has another girl. Girl is 50 with a heart condition??? (I am 29). Girl gets pregnant, boy keeps lying. Girl takes off at night to escape nasty comments, name calling, and loneliness. Girl gets locked out of house. Girl goes to work without showering and smells of booze. Baby is born. Girl stops leaving, boy starts leaving. Boy buys other girl flowers. So basically I've got bruises more often than not, two black eyes, and what's worse, I have no money and am financially dependent on a guy who has locked me out of the house naked and poured bottles of vodka on me. I've coped in lots of ways, at first I would just call an ex to talk on the phone, then he insisted my cell phone is a waste of money. Then, I would go in the basement and cry, which he was more than happy to let me be. Then, I started leaving at night, cuz I have no friends and no job. Then, I stopped leaving altogether because I thought it would improve things. Now he leaves. The other night he didn't come home until 4 am. Last night he didn't come home at all until 2 in the afternoon. I am going nuts!!! I've talked to domestic abuse people, but they can't make any decisions for me or hold my hand every second of the day. I know I have to start by finding work, but I'm so emotionally drained it's hard to feel good about anything, and I have no motivation. To make matters worse, I'm pregnant again.... Help! Someone tell me how to cope!!!
In Sync Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I'm sorry that you are going through this really rough experiece. This can not be easy for you but you are strong because you have endured. Can you stay with a family member? Temporarily at least until you can get away from this abusive setup in order to move forward. It's insane that this agency cannot offer you more assistance...can you turn to a church? Regardless of your religious belief they can help you by providing shelter.. or perhaps stay with a friend?? As hard as this is please make an effort to remove yourself from living with this abusive guy. For the sake of your baby as well as just being able to have a moment of mental peace. It's a mountain that you have to climb but I pray that you will overcome it.
Author beentheredonethat2 Posted July 12, 2006 Author Posted July 12, 2006 Thank you for your support, your words are comforting. No I cannot stay with a friend, I have none here, but I just hugged my mom and cried for the first time in 10 years. I think she wanted that, and it brought us closer. She knows what's happening. Maybe God meant this to happen......
In Sync Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 Thank you for your support, your words are comforting. No I cannot stay with a friend, I have none here, but I just hugged my mom and cried for the first time in 10 years. I think she wanted that, and it brought us closer. She knows what's happening. Maybe God meant this to happen...... You are indeed blessed to have a mother to hug you during this period in your life..my mom passed away this past fall. I's give anything in the world to feel one of her hugs again...no matter what troubles I could have she loved me regardless...Talk to your mom and listen to her. I do think God works in ways we can never imagine. But you always can feel it.
In Sync Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 Thank you for your support, your words are comforting. No I cannot stay with a friend, I have none here, but I just hugged my mom and cried for the first time in 10 years. I think she wanted that, and it brought us closer. She knows what's happening. Maybe God meant this to happen...... You are indeed blessed to have a mother to hug you during this period in your life..my mom passed away this past fall. I'd give anything in the world to feel one of her hugs again...no matter what troubles I could have she loved me regardless...Talk to your mom and listen to her. I do think God works in ways we can never imagine. But you always can feel it.
Shane361 Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 In case you dont realize it this man is the worst thing for you. I hope this has sank into your head by now. Do not be optimistic "for the babys sake" and try to work things out. It will only stay the same or get worse for you and now your baby. With that said if at all possible you need to exit the situation. Hopefully the bond with your mother that you are now again rebuilding will soon be strong enough for her to help you in your time of need. If that is not possible then you need to start the process of being dependent upon yourself again. Get a job if you dont have one now, save some money and move out ASAP. Research shelters, low income housing but if you try hard enough then more doors will open for you. Make an appointment with HRS and see if they can give you more options that you are now unaware of. Good luck be strong and work towards the light at the end of tunnel-shane
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