sunnie23 Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Ok, please bear with me, I know many of you have already read my posts.... I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months. We get along great and usually have fun together. The problems in the relationship are that I can't stand him when he drinks, as he gets really flirty and I have jealous tendencies. The other problem is that we don't have much of a sex life. We both still live with our parents and I don't even have a door on my bedroom, his family is very old fashioned and I'm not allowed in his room if they are there. (We're both 25). Every opportunity we get it happens, unfortunately we don't get many opportunities. Also, he started a new job two months ago where he works 13 hours a day, 6 days a week. He is awesome at spending time with me, but now the physical aspect is even less than it was before, as he usually falls asleep fairly early. It sucks, we'll go out and be all over one another and then we get home and either he passes out or someone is around so nothing can happen. I'm getting really frustrated and I don't know what to do. I honestly think his flirting/my jealousy is stemmed from this issue. I think if we were both fulfilled in this area this stuff wouldn't happen. I want to believe that when we move out (which for the first time we actually talked about doing together) Sooooo it's bumming me out that my man isn't burning for me. He acts like he is, but then when it comes down to it, nothing happens. I'm starting to lose my fire for him and have become quite bored lately. I really want this to work, I can see a future with him and we have a pretty tight bond, but something needs to happen to spice it up a little, and I'm not sure what to do.
Sally00 Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Ok. I've known my boyfriend for over a year before we started dating. He tended to have a drink every now and then, and I didn't like that. When we started dating, I talked to him about that... I didn't like him drinking any alcohol... we're both still underage. He's almost 20. And I also told him about how I didn't like him flirting with other girls... as he did with the girlfriend before me. He took my talk seriously. That showed how much he does love me. He doesn't drink (when he has a sip of his uncle's drink or something.. he DOES tell me though.. for some reason.. but I'm glad he does.. I don't get mad though). And he's not a crazy flirt anymore. Your guy will change his ways if he truly cares about you. So... I think you should really talk to him about this. His drinking, his flirting/your jealousy, etc. Oh and I can almost tell you what it's like to have someone who works a lot. My boyfriend is working atleast 50 hours a week... I usually see him on the weekends. Once school starts, we'll see each other maybe twice a week. So I understand how it can be hard sometimes. And I also understand how he can be so tired... I mean, he's working 13 hours, 6 days a week. I'm sorry but I can't imagine doing that. I'm sure it's very hard. And I really don't see what sex has to do with this. Sex should be something that should be saved till marriage. It causes you to get more emotionally attached to this person and it complicates everything. And it seems like you already ARE emotionally attached because of it. My boyfriend and I don't have sex. We've been together for almost 6 months. I plan on waiting till marriage because God wants that and plus, I don't want to know what it would be like once we've done it. I like things the way they are now. I just thought I'd share my story and help you out. I hope you'll be fine. Communication is very important. You should really talk to him about how you feel. It's been almost 8 months... you should be able to bring up your feelings.
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