brokenheart888 Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 im need of some deperate advise.....here it goes My fiance has just broken up with me. He said hes tired of arguing...we always argued for stupid stuff. So he said that this is not going to work. I really need all the imput i can get from you guys.. I dont know what to do, we live together. So I drove 4 hours last nite to come to a friends house. I can stay here for a while and try and heal a bit. Any suggestions....? I dont know were to start my life again...No job, and no apt. Please give me some good advise....in desprate need. Thank you
KittenMoon Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 What exactly did you argue about all the time? Is it really "stupid"? Or are there some major deal breakers involved here? Give him a few days or a week, without contacting him, to let him think and stew in this. Wait for him to call/contact you, at least the first time. Give yourself and him time to see if this is just a matter of high tempers and lack of communication. Would he consider pre-marital conselling do you think? Or some discussions on conflict resolution?
waitingforlove Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Brokenheart888, I agree with KittenMoon. I myself am a mess, but I hope you won't make those stupid mistakes that I made to make things worse than ever -- like calling him, telling him I loved him ... stupid! I would say, perhaps just leave him alone for a few days. Pretend that you don't care. If he really loves you, he has to accept everything about you, and he has to love you enough to work things out with you in difficult times of conflicts. If, after leaving him alone, he still doesn't come back to you, maybe he's not worth it, or maybe he's just using "arguments" as an excuse to break off the engagement. Who knows if he's afraid of commitment and therefore tried to break the engagement with some sort of silly excuses? However, that's just an assumption. Chances are, if he still loves you, hopefully he'll come back to you if you back off for awhile. Good luck!
Author brokenheart888 Posted July 11, 2006 Author Posted July 11, 2006 Thanks for your advise ladies. I have a little hope. I will just let him think about it for a few days.... I still need to go back and get all my stuff. i think he is reconsidering it.
alwaybroken Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 dont act all desperate. if you show him that you dont need him and you can live perfectly fine on your own he will be more interested in being with you again. Try and show him that he is in fact losing you (by hanging out with a new guy friend maybe). When i broke up with my gf i didnt think about getting back with her when she begged for me and stayed at home all day. until i saw that she had her own life going on and she was starting to be interested in other guys is when i instantly saw that i was losing her. for some reason just because i did the break up made me think i could undo it just as easily.
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