casoria99 Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I knew not to get involved with my married man. But he was italian and it was the nice clothes, money, he used a knife and not a fork to cut his food, kissed my hands, and extremely romantic. But we are in NC. I am in pain but doing okay...although the emotions are all coming to a head. I have my moments but for the most part, I am okay. My moments are that I think of an awesome romantic moment when he fixed a meal, we drank wine and listened to romantic italian music, followed by really insane lovemaking. But I met another handsome man around the same age and same country. But I found out he was married and I told him to keep stepping. He said that he is not perfect and I told him that I couldn't talk to him because think about his wife and how she would feel. I told him to get a divorce but of course, "the children." Then I told him that I know that I would fall in love with him and that he would not leave her and the kids for me. He said that because he is straightup with women about his marriage that it's not his fault that the other women fall in love with him. I told him over and over again that I am looking for a single man and asked him if he had any friends. He said he only has one friend, himself. He would not even talk about my needs but expected me to sit on the phone and listen to his pity party about how his wife doesn't have sex. I told him that she probably isn't having sex because she senses something is wrong with him. I noticed how married men that cheat only think about themselves. "I, I, I!" Then I started talking about me and he would only give two or three word sentences. Then he finally said that he was sorry but he wasn't in the mood to talk. I felt really good because I stayed in control. And I saw in about ten minutes what type of jerk he would become if I had gotten involved with him only to find this out after 2 years of pain. So the beauty about going through this once is that I have no DOUBTS in my mind that I won't go through this again. And since I have had no contact with my ex MM, although I am in a lot of pain, I am spending time thinking and taking care of ME, ME, ME! I didn't realize how I wasn't thinking about me. So my plan is to lose weight and look good so when I do run into him, I will be fine as wine with a good man walking with me. See, I saw potential in my ex, but my true love will deliver! I am proud of myself and some wife somewhere can thank me for not falling in love with her husband. Also, she might be happy that he went to bed tonight thinking about her and what he's doing to his family. Yeah, the OW just saved a marriage!
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