wintercs Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 so i'm wondering what's the best policy if she breaks NC. She dumped my ass a little over two weeks ago...last week she IMed me out of the blue and we talekd for a while. Now I'm wondering if I screwed up by carrying on the conversation. I'm betting that she'll probably attempt to make some contact soon...just to make small talk or whatever...and it will probably be via IM or maybe even email. If and when she does break NC - again - what should I do? Plain ignore her? Tell her to get lost? What? I don't have any resentment for her but I am genuinely sad that we're not "we" anymore. I'm glad that she's doing well and I'm hoping that this magical space is giving her what she wants. What do you think?
NightsInWhiteSatin Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Ignore Ignore Ignore....no matter how painful it is and how much it makes you cry....no matter what she says....ignore....that's what i've done...managed it for nearly 4 months....best thing i ever did....feel so much better. Just mail her and tell her you need this no contact to be taken seriously....and you'll be in touch when you're over the relationship and ready to form a friendship with her.
MrPot Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 My opinion is that you should ignore it about half the time. If she texts you, respond to her the next day with a short, blunt, "Hi, sorry, I was busy," or something like that. You don't need to tell her that you don't want to be friends. Just be unavailable. If she starts calling, only answer the phone like half the time. Let her talk to your voice mail.
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