yesmaybe Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 How do children adjust or react to divorces based on an A? I'm especially curious - how do the children interact with the former-OW/OM-now-current-W/H if they know that one parent left the other for the OW/OM?
theantibarbie23 Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 It really depends on the age, loyalities, and temperment of the children involved. It's really hard to say as there are so many different scenerios.
Curmudgeon Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 It also depends greatly upon how the parents handle it. If the faithful one bad-mouths the former spouse and their lover to the children they will likely resent both of them and may not want a thing to do with them. If, on the other hand, the issue is handled calmly, matter-of-factly and the children see the other parent truly happy with their choice, they may come around. There are just far too many variables (age, maturity levels, parents' relationship before the divorce, parents' relationship following the divorce, what the children were told and in what manner, the OPs approach to the children, et al) for there to be one right answer.
Sami_D Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 yesmaybe, if your MM's W doesn't already know about the A, I would strongly suggest that you and he keep things that way. It just makes it easier all round.
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