silentxbeauty Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 I broke up with my ex- boyfriend 3 weeks ago. I didnt want us to break up but i was jealous of one of his lady friends. I still have feeling for him. He has told my cousin that he loves me and that i mean everything to him, but when i ask to get back together he doesnt answer me. (I asked over e-mail...) I know I should've called him, but now i dont think its possible. My friends say if he really wanted to get back with me he would've called me. But i think this kinda proves he does still like me. "i had alot of fun with her just giving her a kiss made me fly. dammm girl shes hot. i love her soo god damn much. i with her soo perfect for me i would give anything up just to be with her gurl and also i dont kno how to spell much but she mean E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G to me i love her soo much! why doesnt she like me anymore bye. love nick " He was talking to my cousin. He is so confusing. Maybe i hurt him by breaking up with him? I dont know. What should i do. Everything i do seems to mess things up more!!! Thanks in advance
Buttaflyy Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I don't really know what to say, but I felt a need to answer you. It sounds like this is a young love How old are you both if you don't mind.
stronger_daily Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I think it's fair to say that you hurt him. When anyone breaks up with you, it hurts. But maybe there is a way to get back with him. A lot of that is up to you. You sent him an email. Okay, well keep trying. You really think that is going to be enough to make him trust you again? That may sound harsh, but try to think of it from his point of view. As for why you broke up, I'm not sure if I understand what happened. If it was just a friendship and you were jealous then you'd better work on your own insecurities before getting back with him because you're going to severely mess things up if you break up with him everytime you get jealous. A guy isn't going to want to be with you if he knows you don't trust him and that you don't have a good reason for not trusting him. I really hope that you figure things out with this relationship and whatever the outcome that it's the best decision for you.
Author silentxbeauty Posted July 11, 2006 Author Posted July 11, 2006 yeah it is young...we are 13. I didnt expect replies so quick. Again thanks.
dr strangelove Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 13 hmm Life shouldnt be so tough at that age. And lady friends? that is very sophisticated term to use. We shouldnt have to alienate friends if they are male, female, or undecided. That is a very immature way to deal with the problem, however you should realize that women 4 times your age react in the same manner. In any case you should do what women do with me, if they really want me they just show up in person. And it usually works. Im not sure if I would ask him to get back with you, just go call on him and ask him to hang out. Im sure things will work themselves out. Good luck
Buttaflyy Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 yeah it is young...we are 13. I didnt expect replies so quick. Again thanks. I've gotta tell you Sweetheart, that 13 is pretty young to be so serious about one particular guy. My grandmother used to tell me the same, and I see now that she was right. At 13, if you are allowed to "date" you should be having fun and hanging out. You should not be thinking on the terms of a relationship.
WiseOne Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I Would Like To Say Ignore That Last Reply From ButtaFly, It's Never To Early For Love, I Think As Long As Your Over The Age Of 12 And Your Both Mature, Its Not To Early. I Mean It Is A Common Problem In Adults Relationship When It Comes To A Partner Being To Immature. So What Im Saying Is Immaturity Can Strike In A Adult Relationship, so as a Teenage Relationship. For These Purposes Please Refrain From Using The Age Factor.
Buttaflyy Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I Would Like To Say Ignore That Last Reply From ButtaFly, It's Never To Early For Love, I Think As Long As Your Over The Age Of 12 And Your Both Mature, Its Not To Early. I Mean It Is A Common Problem In Adults Relationship When It Comes To A Partner Being To Immature. So What Im Saying Is Immaturity Can Strike In A Adult Relationship, so as a Teenage Relationship. For These Purposes Please Refrain From Using The Age Factor. For curiosity's sake...How old are you WiseOne??
WiseOne Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I'm 17, and I'm using that as a fact, because its a scientifically fact that a person can not be measured when it comes to love my there age, only by there maturity. I Must say most 13 year olds dont even have a clue to what love feels like, and lots of the time, they fall into a imagination state of love, meaning thinking that they are in love, when the truth is that they dont have a clue. But Stuff happens, once in a while there will be a certain time when it may be a 13 year old that knows how love feels. When i was 13 i thought i was in love, but in turned out to be nothing more than just infatuation. The Point That Im Trying To Get Through To The Client Is, It Does Happen, But Rarely. So Im Not Saying That Your Incorrect, its just that you can never be sure about such things.
Devrapunzel Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 O.K. Wise One, you're obviously intelligent for your age, however not wise enough to perhaps see what Buttaflyy was trying to say. You're right, scientifically speaking, the chemicals in the brain/body associated with love, lust, etc. are the same no matter what age. However, with age comes experience and maturity and that means the ability to weed out and intuitively screen what is and what isn't truth. Buttafly was suggesting that she just have fun and experience the journey of life right now. Good advice. No offense here, but you should save your post and look at it in 20 years. You will see.
Buttaflyy Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I'm 17, and I'm using that as a fact, because its a scientifically fact that a person can not be measured when it comes to love my there age, only by there maturity. I Must say most 13 year olds dont even have a clue to what love feels like, and lots of the time, they fall into a imagination state of love, meaning thinking that they are in love, when the truth is that they dont have a clue. But Stuff happens, once in a while there will be a certain time when it may be a 13 year old that knows how love feels. When i was 13 i thought i was in love, but in turned out to be nothing more than just infatuation. The Point That Im Trying To Get Through To The Client Is, It Does Happen, But Rarely. Well, I'm 28 and I first fell in love at 13 with my daughter's father. (Don't get any fairytale thoughts in your head OP, it never works out the way you hope at 13 years old) I was a teenaged PARENT, because I let a boy and all of these visions of love enter my brain over everything else that I had to look foward to as a teenager. Not that this would happen to you OP, but take it slow. Enjoy life as these are the easier years. Trust me. Most of the time, and I can almost say ALL of the time an adolescent is going through so many things at one time, and rushing life and experiences, they confuse alot of things about life and love. What we learn, we learn from wisdom and experience. When you are so young, there is plenty of time to get these things all figured out. And Wise One, wisdom comes with knowledge and experience. One can be very mature for 13 or 17 for that matter, but wisdom comes with age.
KittenMoon Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I don't think the question is can you love/be infatuated with someone at 13, but rather, how do you cope with the level of feelings a 13yr old experiences when it comes to love, and then its loss. I'm trying to remember who I had a crush on at 13... hm. I don't really remember- but didn't all those good feelings and/or rejections sting? silentxbeauty- you're young enough that I think you should deal with this in whatever way feels right to you. Ask your friends too! I think both triumphs and/or failures at that age are good experience.
WiseOne Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I Understand Perfectly What She Was Saying, I Just Didn't Want The Girl To Get Discouraged, Because She's Not Really Doing Any Harm To Herself, By Being In A Serious Relationhip At A Young Age, Even If It Turns Out To Be Infactuation. But She Should Enjoy Herself while being young. But I Think She Should Take This Relationship To A Certain Point, She's Young SO She Should Put Strain Or Worry On Herself About Things Like This, Becuz Its Plenty Of Time To Find A Mate, Why Try So Hard? So this it when it comes to destiny, if its meant to be its meant to be. Its All about doing whats best for yourself. But I Do Agree With You, But why does it seem like you trrying to attack me with your theory. Im Very Mature For My Age, Possibilly More Than You'll Ever Be. I Mean Guys Think About It, We All Probably Have A Memory Of Being In Love At A Young Age,Even If It Was Just Fake Love. Just Because ButtaFly Had A Bad Experience And Got Trapped, She Shouldnt Bring Silent Down. But In The End I Agree With You.
Buttaflyy Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I don't think the question is can you love/be infatuated with someone at 13, but rather, how do you cope with the level of feelings a 13yr old experiences when it comes to love, and then its loss. I'm trying to remember who I had a crush on at 13... hm. I don't really remember- but didn't all those good feelings and/or rejections sting? silentxbeauty- you're young enough that I think you should deal with this in whatever way feels right to you. Ask your friends too! I think both triumphs and/or failures at that age are good experience. Absolutely, point taken KittenMoon. But I think she should know that 13 is pretty young to be so involved with one person. We kind of went off the topic there, but yes, break ups aren't easy at any age. I think if you are hanging out with guys rather than pursuing relationships you are bound to pick up and keep moving too. Sometimes, girls try and live life so fast. A crush is one thing, but crush on plenty boys! Sometimes, I think some girls think that there's something wrong with that. As if they should be dedicated and serious at that age.
WiseOne Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 The Main Point Of It Is She Shouldnt Put That Much On It, If It Works Out It Works Out, Becuz Believe Me Or Not I Know Alot Of Successful Teenage Relationships Of People Who Are Now Married. So She And Him Should Do What Is Best ForEachother. ThankYou People
Buttaflyy Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I Understand Perfectly What She Was Saying, I Just Didn't Want The Girl To Get Discouraged, Because She's Not Really Doing Any Harm To Herself, By Being In A Serious Relationhip At A Young Age, Even If It Turns Out To Be Infactuation. But She Should Enjoy Herself while being young. But I Think She Should Take This Relationship To A Certain Point, She's Young SO She Should Put Strain Or Worry On Herself About Things Like This, Becuz Its Plenty Of Time To Find A Mate, Why Try So Hard? So this it when it comes to destiny, if its meant to be its meant to be. Its All about doing whats best for yourself. But I Do Agree With You, But why does it seem like you trrying to attack me with your theory. Im Very Mature For My Age, Possibilly More Than You'll Ever Be. I Mean Guys Think About It, We All Probably Have A Memory Of Being In Love At A Young Age,Even If It Was Just Fake Love. Just Because ButtaFly Had A Bad Experience And Got Trapped, She Shouldnt Bring Silent Down. But In The End I Agree With You. I didn't say my experience was bad, it is one that I wouldn't want for Silent. Also, I guess you're pretty adamant about your point as I am mine. We can agree to disagree.
WiseOne Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 I Agree With You ButtaFlyy ALot Alot, All I Wanted To Get Through To Her Is That If It Works It Works, Dont Put That Much On It, Because After all She Is Young And She Will Have Plenty Of Time For Love. Because It Might Be Hard To Believe But I Do Personally Know Alot Of Successful Teen Relationships Of People Who Are Now Married.
Author silentxbeauty Posted July 11, 2006 Author Posted July 11, 2006 wow ok so basically the advice here is to talk to him in person, and if that doesnt work out to just let it be. Lol too add on to the age & love debate, I think that there is alot of different kinds of love. Just caring about someone counts, and you can do that at any age.
WiseOne Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Correct, You Are Young So If It Doesnt Work Out, Dont Feel Down, Becuz You Will Have Plenty Plenty Enough Time For Love, So The Point That Is To Be Taken, Is Let Destiny Work ItSelf Out,Now That Doesnt Mean Not To Try In The Relationship. But Just Dont Put That Much On It, Dont Get To Caught Up In The Relationship,Dont Put Up With Stuff That You Dont Have Too.
Kengne Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Oh wow - to be that young again. I'm only 23 - and I feel like it's been YEARS since I felt that rush of love and/or infatuation masquerading as 'love'. Silent - yes I think you should talk to him in person. An email is too impersonal to be discussing things of this nature.Good luck, and let us know how things go. K.
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