dirtybird Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 well i hope sum of u guys can help me wit this one,i wont go much into detail but i met a grl about 9 months ago,she lives 2hrs away by my ma's house,weve been tlkin ever since she is a great over the phone,we xchanged alot of pics and everything seems fine but 4 some reason we havent met yet!i can understand if it was when we first tlked but kno,its to the point were she says she loves me,i do believe it but when i try to make palns wit her shes always findin xcuses out of seein me,we tlked so many times about it and i tried evrything to see,she doesnt give me a straight answer and trys to drop the subject,she says she wants to see me and be wit me but cant understand it,she dated a guy about the same distance a long time ago and she says she made plans for him to come up and im hurtin b/c tat was only lik a 3 month relationship and im wit her 4 9 months,so im stressin out and upset and its lik i kno i should let it go and not be wit her,but its hard and she keeps me believin tat theres hope but how long does it take if im even going to see her?i didnt go into full detail but im sure u can picture the situation. Sorry if its not the best story but were on here to help eachother out,thank you
norajane Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 You live 2 hours away and in 9 months you haven't found a way to meet? My guess is 1) she's married/dating someone else 2) she's not who she says she is (her pictures aren't really of her, she's really a teenager out for some kicks online, etc.) 3) she doesn't 'love' you, and doesn't really want to be with you 4) she's hiding something...maybe she has children and hasn't told you? maybe she's really 300 pounds? maybe she lied about something else and is afraid you'll find out? A woman who was into a guy wouldn't make excuses for 9 months. A 2 hour drive is nothing, and doesn't require major planning and preparation to meet.
Sonic_chaos Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 A woman who was into a guy wouldn't make excuses for 9 months. A 2 hour drive is nothing, and doesn't require major planning and preparation to meet. i have to agree, Altho my girlfriend doesnt live 2 hours away, *more like 1 hour* It was only 6 weeks or so of talking on the net everyday that one day we said, sod it have we to meet up? she had no quams at all about it, Even to the extent that i went directly to her house to meet up, Which at the time i thought was silly as i could have been a mad axeman stalker or something But never the less my idea is that she is nervous of meeting you, could be she hasnt be totally honest for some reason... as norajane said above. Id ask her to be striaght with you. Set a date and dont vary from it, no excuses. i did get an excuse my first date as it was father day the day set, So i said, i'll come a day eariler then. She said no problem.. 9 month is quite along time to be strung along if thats the case. and Unfair on yourself.. if it keeps happening then i would say well, im sorry but i cant keep getting messed about, your hurting me by messing me about and i think we should at least be friends if nothing else.
cookie411 Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 The people who replyed above are right. This girl is hiding something. And it is not something small. I know trust me. I would assume its either the age or the weight. I know that seems like the obvious assumptions but it usually right. I would say get out of it now before you invest any more feelings into the "relationship" you have with her.
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