KittenMoon Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 To get even more off-track- Fab- did you buy a house or are you renting? How do you like it? Just curious.
bendit Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 km, thanks for the advice. But I will post on whatever threads I please. If you think I cross the line please take it to the moderators, and let them decide. But please don't try and censor anyone. Perhaps you should take your venting to email or a blog so you can annoy the minimum number of people with your daily self absorption. After all, you aren't going to take any one's advice anyway. So why bother with a thread? regards
KittenMoon Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 km, thanks for the advice. But I will post on whatever threads I please. If you think I cross the line please take it to the moderators, and let them decide. But please don't try and censor anyone. Perhaps you should take your venting to email or a blog so you can annoy the minimum number of people with your daily self absorption. After all, you aren't going to take any one's advice anyway. So why bother with a thread? regards I thought we were letting this be? It would be nice to see you make it through a single thread w/o insulting someone for choosing not to take your advice bendit. Or for not agreeing with you. I have taken plenty of advice from the people on this site- just not yours. I'm sorry you feel that everyone has to take your advice, or none at all.
bendit Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Oh. I simply was thanking you for the unsolicited advice, informing you I won't be taking it, and letting you know that you should go to the mods if you think there is problem with my posts. That would be the mature thing to do. regards ps: I was looking for your daily "Life's not FAIR!" thread and I didn't see it today. Running late?
KittenMoon Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Oh. I simply was thanking you for the unsolicited advice, informing you I won't be taking it, and letting you know that you should go to the mods if you think there is problem with my posts. That would be the mature thing to do. regards ps: I was looking for your "Life's not FAIR!" thread today and I didn't see it. Running late today? Seriously- one post w/o an insult would be amazing.
crazy_grl Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 On the original topic of this thread, fabulousgal, the question of whether the text was necessary can be answered by answering the following question: If he had been anyone else, would you have sent him that text? I think NC is a good rule, but I think it's only necessary to stick to it so strickly if the dumpee has acted like a doormat and/or smothered the other person. It's more important to not need contact with the ex than it is to not contact them. From the sounds of it, you didnt treat him badly. You just didn't talk to him, and then he left. It's true that you were the hostess, but you didn't invite him, so I don't see how you had an obligation to amuse him. It was his choice to leave. If it had been anyone else would you have even noticed? Unless you would have appologized like this to any random person who showed up at your party, then I think your lingering feelings caused you to make more out of the situation and appologize for something that you didn't necessarily need to appologize for. So what if his friends saw him get dissed. He didn't have to be. He could have approached you and told you he was sorry that he showed up and hadn't known it was your party. He could have asked you if it was ok for him to stay. I don't think you're fully over him yet, but it doesn't sound like you think you are. I do think you're on your way though.
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