Rooster_DAR Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 You gals are living unhealthy and dangerous lives there's no doubt. I know you have probably heard it a million times, but therapy is there for a reason and really works. Believe it or not, you can find/regain the happiness with your partners with a little work, instead you are finding it easier to go elsewhere. Just like with any other addiction, it's going to take cold turkey and a lot of withdrawel to get you back on track, but you can do it I'm confident in that. Good luck!
silentalways Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 there are too many woman that hurt others goodbye
MOMMIE Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 I'm sorry but I just don't understand how you can not be concerned for your "life" in a situation like this...this type of reckless betrayal can drive people to commit murder....My friend is dead because of a situation like this that she entangled herself in...not to mention her children have no mother, and many lives are ruin... Just be careful
slimmontana Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Wow..those threads are extremely depressing! I think that all the women that said that they are going are through this have very low self esteem because if you were very confident with who u are you would not need a man's attention or affection to validate it...Don't you guys want to experience real love? How can you ever expect to achieve that when you are lying to both parties. Its just a complete mess...I'm not wishing harm on nobody but I hope this blows up in all your faces because obviiously no one has hit rock bottom..and sometimes you have to hit rockbottom to chang..and obviously the lying,cheating, needs to stop..the longer it goes on the longer it may take you to heal..
Rooster_DAR Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 there are too many woman that hurt others goodbye Not to sound to general, but yeah I agree here as well. This whole thing seems to be a terrible epidemic. Very sad indeed!
MOMMIE Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Silentalways/R-Dar....Thanks for saying what I wanted to say....I am new to this site, and I was starting to love it....It's my first:) But some of the drama is uncalled for....really....
Rooster_DAR Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Silentalways/R-Dar....Thanks for saying what I wanted to say....I am new to this site, and I was starting to love it....It's my first:) But some of the drama is uncalled for....really.... Unfortunately it's the real world, and somehow we have to face it. Up until my fiance cheated on me and brought me to this site, I was unaware how widespread this problem is. Everyday I have to read about some poor soul who has lost the person he/she love so much. After being here for a while, you begin to see a pattern with everyone who posts here, whether it be the cheater or the cheated, it's almost always the same scenario. At first I was pissed and wanted to condemn all people who cheat, but instead I'm now trying to understand why this is such a widespread problem and analyze this pandemic. Clearly we are at a revolution or turning point so to speak when it comes to commitment and infidelity. It seems there are very few of us left who value their commitment and are willing to stick by their partner in times of crisis. Perhaps people are grown up with the stigma that Mr. Knight in shining armor comes, we fall in love, and somehow we stay in this world of no problems forever. We need to lose the notion that life is like this, and quit portraying what real love is and misguiding people with movies regarding/potraying american romance. I think every romance movie I see is about how a person leaves their fiance/SO cause they met a man/woman on the subway that was everything they dreamed of, and suddenly their fiance/SO was the wrong person. When do you ever see a movie about two single people who fall in love? Anybody can fall into this situation, it's a human characteristic and drives the fundamental human need to procreate. People don't understand what's happening to them, and are mistaking the natural mammal instincts of attraction and pairing. Instead, I think we need to be taught that infidelity is certain if you are not using the proper tools to keep this from happening. All relationships have their periods of inconsistency, but it takes two people that understand all the elements that surround maintaining a commitment, along with open communication regarding any dispositions that may arise. Cheers!
MOMMIE Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 I want a copy of your first book, and could you please try to give "caught husband of 35 years in the bed with OW" some advice.....I just can't take anymore tonite....to painful for me right now.....cheers:)
Rooster_DAR Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Everyone on this thread consider looking over this link, It may provide some insight of the inner battle you are struggling with. Regards! http://womensinfidelity.com/
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