MikeMHz Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Ok so I wasn't sure where this should go. It fits in practically every area of the forum... To start, it has been maybe 9 months since I broke up with my first ever serious g/f. Strange thing is that I met her online. I guess I was looking for a girl to become friends with. I ended up meeting a girl who lives in Idaho, USA (I live in London). Well... I could list all the incredible things about this woman. She's very intelligent, very beautiful, very kind and very ambitious and passionate. She's pretty much the female Americanized version of me. We've met twice and we're very close. But at the moment I feel she's not trying very hard to maintain a friendship with me. This hurts me because I try very hard, perhaps too hard. I also have a lot more free time than she does and so I fear I've become a little over-familiar with her. My main problem is... I am still deeply in love with her. After this long I am pretty sure she will always have a big part of my heart. I've seen her having fun with other guys to try and forget about me... I've seen her attempt to get back with her ex before me... I've seen her get into a relationship that even she admits isn't going anywhere... but most importantly I've seen her continue looking for all the things we shared when we were together. It's almost as if the things we talked about in the past and the things we've discussed in more recent months have directly affected her decisions with other men. Of course, these men are all from America. She once said that he distance was now part of the reason we can't be together. I have a feeling another reason may be the arguments we've had... which are more often than not, my fault. I do have a tenancy to jump to conclusions and have a go... I think that's less to do with why I'm annoyed bu the way I approach it... accusing her and going over the top. In fact I almost did it again today... but then we spoke briefly and she melted my heart once again. We both care about each other deeply. I just wish I could tell her how much I love her... I wish things were like the way it was before we dived into 'unconditional love' so fast. I want her to be as interested and enthusiastic about me as I am about her.. and as she used to be about me before I made so many emotional mistakes. I really think we're perfect for each other... I felt perfect last time we met, we weren't together... but afterwards she told me she loved me. Then hurriedly went about forgetting about me with another man... then got angry at me when I got too close and intense in expressing my feelings for her. Anyway... it's too complicated. If you have any questions please ask...
angel915 Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 it's really hard maintaining a long distance relationship. some girls are just not up to the challenge. i used to have a three year long distance relationship, in the end it didn't work. he was my first serious boyfriend. my ex bf acted in similar ways as you. i never cheated on him but he would accuse me of cheating. he gets mad when i hang out with my guy friends eventhough he met them already. it hurts a lot when someone is accused of something when there's no evidence that she did something wrong. anyway, you can already see that she's not putting a lot of effort to be in a relationship. it takes two to make a relationship work! that's why my long distance relationship didn't work because over time the other didn't put as much effort as he used to. i can see that you really care about this girl but you're just stressing over someone who would likely not want a long distance relationship, i think in the end you will get hurt. find someone else who will reciprocate your feelings. you seem like a guy capable of treating a girl right and love someone deeply. there are a lot of girls out there, maybe someone who lives close to you who's looking for a guy like you...you'll never know until you give others a chance. let this one go, because clearly she's not making any effort to be with you. oh by the way, after my long distance ex boyfriend and i broke up, three months later i started dating a guy whom i used to have a crush with years before, and now we are happily married....i hope the same thing will happen for you.
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