nayton Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 i don't know if i should break it off or not. I've been talking to her for 10 months now and we got together a month ago. for the passed week she has been mentioning her ex boyfriend and crying and breaking down. basicly she isn't over him. I talk to her about it but she tells me she wants to be with ME. i tell her she can't do that because she's still into her ex. she tells me that it's impossible for her to get back with him. I feel that sometimes she cares about me because of her actions. We go out and spend time together. she tells me she sees a great relationship between us. I've been talking to this girl for almost a year now and i really like her .. if you were in this situation what would be the best to do?
BareGoddess Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 i don't know if i should break it off or not. I've been talking to her for 10 months now and we got together a month ago. for the passed week she has been mentioning her ex boyfriend and crying and breaking down. basicly she isn't over him. I talk to her about it but she tells me she wants to be with ME. i tell her she can't do that because she's still into her ex. she tells me that it's impossible for her to get back with him. I feel that sometimes she cares about me because of her actions. We go out and spend time together. she tells me she sees a great relationship between us. I've been talking to this girl for almost a year now and i really like her .. if you were in this situation what would be the best to do? I would step back. Tell her that when she's over her ex that she can contact you and MAYBE you'll be available. If you continue to just listen to her talk about the ex you'll end up in the "friend zone."
Walk Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Ow... that would hurt. I agree with BareGoddess. Your gf would be with her ex if the guy wanted her back. She's not being fair to you. The girl should NOT be in a relationship until she is over the ex. In my book, you don't get into a new relationship unless it is to be completely with that person. Mind and heart. Seems to me her mind is saying she wants to be with you, but her heart would rather be somewhere else. Especially when she makes a statement like "it's impossible for her to get back with him." Not that she doesn't want to be with him, or that she wouldn't drop you in a heart beat if she could be with the other guy... Not that she realizes what a great catch you are, or that you fulfill all her ideals for a perfect partner... But the ex said she can't come back, so she might as well be with you. Send her on her way, and if she ever pulls her head out of her butt, then maybe she can call you then. But she isn't over her ex. She's using you to delay dealing with it, and as a safety net. It's not fair to you. You deserve someone who's going to be committed to a relationship with mind and heart.
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