Waffle07 Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 So I went on a date with this girl everything went well and we had a good time. I waited a couple of days after our first date to call her and to see if she wanted to go on another. Well about a week and a half later we still haven't gone on a date. We always set something up and she ends up coming home too late for work or some other excuse(but her excuses seem legit). Again we were suppose to do something last night, I called her, she didn't pick up, and I haven't heard from her since (this is like the 3rd time she said we were gonna do something and we haven't). Right now I'm thinking she doesn't like me and she is telling me this by not calling or going out with me. The only thing that confuses me is our phone conversations. She has called me 3 times in the past week and a half to talk and to see what I was doing. Our phone conversations go really well, i make her laugh, she seems really into me, she likes to hear about my day, etc. I really dont know what to think. Should I try to call her tonight or should I wait for her to call. Please Help! I don't know what to do I'm so confused.
magichands Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Go ahead and call. As long as you aren't making ALL the calls, and she isn't making ALL the calls - which isn't the case - right?
purspeed Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Do not call her under any circumstances. She thinks you're a fool and that you are "conquered." Move on from this one.
a/k Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 I'm in the almost exact same situation. I deleted her number from my phone and I am moving on.
purspeed Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 I'm in the almost exact same situation. I deleted her number from my phone and I am moving on. Smart move.
Buttaflyy Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 I'd wait until she called. She could have called you to cancel. Since she didn't, wait and if she does she'd better have a greater excuse then any she's ever had.
purspeed Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 I'd wait until she called. She could have called you to cancel. Since she didn't, wait and if she does she'd better have a greater excuse then any she's ever had. Wrong. She liked you b/c you were novelty. You were fascinating. She lost her fascination. It can happen in minutes or months. Now she looks down on you. Avoid these types. Do you really need low-quality folks in your life?
Author Waffle07 Posted July 10, 2006 Author Posted July 10, 2006 I seriously think she is better than that, but who knows. I want to give it a couple of days and see what happens, but in my mind i think it's a lost cause. She should have called by now and that is what bothers me.
purspeed Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 You think that b/c you are inexperienced. Cut her loose before you become her little bitch or free source for drinks and gifts.
Buttaflyy Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 You think that b/c you are inexperienced. Cut her loose before you become her little bitch or free source for drinks and gifts. Damn, what happened to you? Sounds like someone took advantage of you? Actually, I've done this before and was sincerely busy with work. It really had nothing to do with the guy. But more to do with the fact that I had too much going on to even try and pursue a relationship at that time. To the OP, I do think she was very inconsiderate by blowing you off and not calling. And when she does decide to pick up the phone and call, especially since she hasn't yet, I'd blow her off this time. This really doesn't sound like someone I'd want to get serious with, this is not a good impression. You would pretty much know what you've got ahead of you.
purspeed Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Buttaflyy: try to not contradict yourself here. Re-read what you wrote. Smart people learn from other people's mistakes, not making their own. Does that answer your question about what happened to me?
My_Other_I Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 She might be sincere, but she is also a sincere flake. Maybe a fun girl to know, but not a dating material to loose your sleep over. I'd go and look elsewhere for better dates. If you like her, befriend her, as opposed to making her your gf.
Buttaflyy Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Buttaflyy: try to not contradict yourself here. Re-read what you wrote. Smart people learn from other people's mistakes, not making their own. Does that answer your question about what happened to me? No you misunderstood. I said that my situation was that I was actually busy and it had nothing to do with the guy. I cancelled on him plenty of times, but I really did like him. The second paragraph was to the OP since he came back and said that she still hadn't called and that worried him, I was telling him that that was inconsiderate of her. No matter what she coulda called originally instead of standing him up, but since she still hadn't.... As for smart people not making mistakes, that's bogus. Most things in life is trial and error. Smart people don't take other peoples situations and apply them all to themselves. Instead, they realize when they've made their own mistake and try not to repeat it. So no, it answers nothing about you.
Buttaflyy Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 She might be sincere, but she is also a sincere flake. Maybe a fun girl to know, but not a dating material to loose your sleep over. I'd go and look elsewhere for better dates. If you like her, befriend her, as opposed to making her your gf. Great post MOI! The point I was trying to make Well said.
purspeed Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Okay, okay...here's my story: When I was 6, my uncle asked me to sit on his lap...and then... Uh, no. I'm a healthy, well adjusted male. I look good and have a good social life. I empathize with people and don't like to see suckers. Suckers are those not experienced or smart enough to look into the heart of another and see their true nature. If I read that someone is making a poor choice, I'll tell 'em. Usually, it won't change their behaviour, but it helps my Karma.
Buttaflyy Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Okay, okay...here's my story: When I was 6, my uncle asked me to sit on his lap...and then... Uh, no. I'm a healthy, well adjusted male. I look good and have a good social life. I empathize with people and don't like to see suckers. Suckers are those not experienced or smart enough to look into the heart of another and see their true nature. If I read that someone is making a poor choice, I'll tell 'em. Usually, it won't change their behaviour, but it helps my Karma. You see suckers as people with lack of experience, yet, you say that intelligent people don't experience things themselves (in order not to make a mistake). I'm assuming you consider yourself to be smart. Do you also consider yourself to be a sucker? You, my dear are contradicting yourself. How do you figure your karma "changes" because you advise another? We're all here trying to give what we feel is the best advice. What we are giving the OP is our opinion. I try to do it with out being insulting. That way it may actually be helpful. But, that's my method. You've got yours.
Sal Paradise Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 You think that b/c you are inexperienced. Cut her loose before you become her little bitch or free source for drinks and gifts. It seems like every post of yours that I've read you're telling people how inexperienced they are. It's almost like you're trying to convince everyone (including yourself) that you are an experienced expert on life and relationships and everyone else is an inexperienced novice. You don't know anyone here so you have no way of knowing if anyone here is "experienced" or not. Nor does merely proclaiming yourself an expert make you one. And judging by a lot of the advice you've given I would guess that you've accumulated very little "life experience" much less relationship experience. Someone that experienced wouldn't be so insecure that they felt the need to remind everyone with every post how much more experience they have than everyone else. It's like the guy in the locker room or bar who brags about how many girls he's been with (or how "big" he is) when in reality he rarely gets laid (and is rather "small" down there). You do realize that masturbation doesn’t qualify as relationship experience, don't you? I will give you some credit though, you do seem rather “experienced” at trolling internet message boards.
purspeed Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 @Buttaflyy: My Karma is very important to me. My sound advice helps my Karma because it's positive energy. I never wrote that intelligent people don't experience anything, sucker. I wrote that intelligent people don't make foolish mistakes because they learn from other people's mistakes (through observation or studying history, psychology, etc.) The road to hell is paved with good intentions. I see this board full of advice that is potentially harmful due to the sheer lack of, yes, experience. The fact is that all of my advice is sound and practical and tailored to the totality of the circumstances at hand. I'm direct and the point, babe. @ Sal Paradise: I never claimed that I am all knowing. I just happen to know more than either of you. Forget proclamation, Sal, just read through my posts and you will find this to be self-evident (axiom). I am blessed to have a large phallus, but I never brought that up. I date exclusively hot babes, but I never brought that up. Instead of being threatened by me, Sal, why don't you offer your own opinion to folks and let them decide which advice offer best value to them?
gfto Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Right now I'm thinking she doesn't like me. You are correct. The only thing that confuses me is our phone conversations. She has called me 3 times in the past week and a half to talk and to see what I was doing. Our phone conversations go really well This is irrelevant. I'm so confused. There's nothing to be confused about. She simply isn't interested in you. You should've flushed her number after the first time she cancelled on you. cancelled date=low interest level
Sal Paradise Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 I never claimed that I am all knowing. I just happen to know more than either of you. You can’t possibly know that from reading a few posts on a message board. In reality you don’t even think that. Your insecurity shines through every one of your posts, those who brag as much as you usually do so to over compensate their own inadequacy. For you that must be a full time job. Forget proclamation, Sal, just read through my posts and you will find this to be self-evident The only thing that appears self-evident from reading your posts is that you’re a pathetic, troll who is addicted to attention. It’s sad really but quite common online. There is nothing particularly special about you or your “act”. You’re a common internet troll. I hate to be the one to break it to you but Internet Trolls are a dime a dozen. At least some trolls are entertaining; sadly you’re not one of those trolls. I am blessed to have a large phallus That’s the right attitude, keep telling yourself that and maybe one day you’ll believe it yourself. Remember little guy, denial like most things in life takes a lot of practice before you can master it. I date exclusively hot babes How can you find time to date when you're busy trolling these forums? Anyone who can make 60 posts in 2 days must not have that active of a social life. The only person you're seeing exclusively is the "Submit Reply" button. Furthermore I must remind you that masturbation doesn’t count as relationship experience. Talking to and staring at pictures of Jessica Alba for hours and hours each and every day doesn’t constitute a relationship with a hot babe (much less multiple hot babes). And I realize that your “girlfriend” on “World of Warcraft” could be considered hot for an animated elf but even you must realize that 90% of all female characters in MMORPG’s are played by 40 year old pedophiles. I’m just looking out for ya little buddy, I wouldn’t want to see ya get your heart broken by “Sexyelvenprincess” aka Elmer the High School Janitor. Don’t worry though, one day I’m sure you’ll meet the right girl and if you don’t you can always save up a couple thousand bucks and buy yourself a used “Real Doll” off of Ebay. Instead of being threatened by me, Sal, why don't you offer your own opinion to folks and let them decide which advice offer best value to them? I’m always offering advice on here and I share many opinions (this post is an example of both). But unlike yourself I’m not here to troll for attention. Nor do I view posting as a competition. I mean seriously, you can’t be over 16. What are you going to do next challenge me to a spitball fight or a game of paper football? Who are you trying to impress with this schtick? Well my little troll, I’ve had enough, I’m no longer going to give that which you crave….”attention”. Someone else will have to feed the troll. Good night little fella, don’t let the bed bugs bite (or Elmer the High School Janitor)
pippen_2k Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Purspeed - I find your posts spot on. Very blunt and to the point, but sometimes people need that no BS response to get the point across. I dont buy that 'too busy at work' to make a lazy phone call.. what a load of Horse Ship Your posts will get on peoples nerves but only becuase people believe in stupid fairytale endings.
j.carsey Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 I'd still say, keep her around and use her if you can to meet other women
Buttaflyy Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 @Buttaflyy: My Karma is very important to me. My sound advice helps my Karma because it's positive energy. I never wrote that intelligent people don't experience anything, sucker. I wrote that intelligent people don't make foolish mistakes because they learn from other people's mistakes (through observation or studying history, psychology, etc.) The road to hell is paved with good intentions. I see this board full of advice that is potentially harmful due to the sheer lack of, yes, experience. The fact is that all of my advice is sound and practical and tailored to the totality of the circumstances at hand. I'm direct and the point, babe. @ Sal Paradise: I never claimed that I am all knowing. I just happen to know more than either of you. Forget proclamation, Sal, just read through my posts and you will find this to be self-evident (axiom). I am blessed to have a large phallus, but I never brought that up. I date exclusively hot babes, but I never brought that up. Instead of being threatened by me, Sal, why don't you offer your own opinion to folks and let them decide which advice offer best value to them? Whatever Troll! :lmao: As far as being blunt, we can all do that. Giving intelligent advice is limited to some. Not including you! You must be very young.... Hopefully :rolleyes:
Buttaflyy Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Purspeed - I find your posts spot on. Very blunt and to the point, but sometimes people need that no BS response to get the point across. I dont buy that 'too busy at work' to make a lazy phone call.. what a load of Horse Ship Your posts will get on peoples nerves but only becuase people believe in stupid fairytale endings. It's not about fairy tale endings. Life is no fairy tale. But your guy should show a little more respect toward others in his posts. Especially, if he wants his opinion counted. He's a load of Horse Ship!
Author Waffle07 Posted July 11, 2006 Author Posted July 11, 2006 I still haven't heard from her yet. I was thinking about texting her, If I do I was just gonna say, "Hey...What happened on Saturday night?" I wanna see what she says and why she stood me up. What is your guys and ladies opinion on this? I'm pretty much over her, I had orientation at Penn State today, me and this girl hit it off, and I got her number. So I got that to look forward too. Eventhough I was really obsessed with this girl cause she was so freaking hot, I realised there are so many women out there that are equally or more attractive. Lesson learned!
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