Outcast Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Well here's news; that you are frustrated does not give you leave to exert physical force against someone else. If he's 'frustrating' you, turn around and walk out the door and go do something you enjoy. If he's too childish for you, leave him. But that you shove him around and he hits you back foretells nothing but a bad future for this relationship.
Craig Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Cutegirl the point is that it is never ok to be physically aggressive with your partner and that includes shoving and lightly hitting. The reason is simply because it can and does lead to more forceful shoves and harder hitting AND there are much more healthier ways to resolve disagreements or disputes. Both of you are using immature methods to deal with frustrations in the relationship. It's time for both of you to learn healthier ways to handle issues in your relationship.
Shane361 Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 WOW..mental, verbally abusive, closet case physically abusive(matter of time), dependent, possesive Im sure and so taking advantage of you. You already said it yourself, you love who you thought it was. His representitive met you and had you fall for him. Now you are really meeting him as a person. There is NEVER a time for anyone to hit anyone..EVER. I feel weak as a person if I let someone else get me that mad. But I would never resort to physical violence with a woman. Some men now need a good ace beating. Sounds like he does actually but he would just come home and take it out on you I bet. You dont love him as a person, and you really dont even like him so you should leave!!!!! Now...I had a girl in highschool punch me in the stomach cause she thought it was funnny. I slapped her for that out of reaction. Even my mom said if a woman hits you hit that **** back. But I wouldnt ball my fist up like she did. Some woman think they can get away with it cause guys aint suppose to hit them. Those might need a good ace woopin. But what that really means is leave that crazy *** **** alone. She has more issues that I have time to deal with. Regardless....you can do better than him cause he sounds like a terrible person who had gotten too comfortable with the services you willingly supply. -Shane
Craig Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 There is NEVER a time for anyone to hit anyone..EVER. Some men now need a good ace beating. Some woman think they can get away with it cause guys aint suppose to hit them. Those might need a good ace woopin. Did I misunderstand something in your post?
Shane361 Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Thought that was gonna come up, lol. It does sound contridicting to say the least. The one incident happened with I was in high school as noted. I would handle the situation differently now being 33. In the Military when a junior comes in late..we make him come in early for the next week. Its a punishment to fit the crime. If a man beats up a woman..maybe he needs his ace beat to understand his crime. Sounds good in theory but is it the rite thing to do? Will it even correct the dificiency? I dont think that it will for 95% of the cases if it was tried. So the best thing to do is withdrawl yourself from the situation if you were that woman. I'll still contridict myself in saying that the rite thing to do is just that..leave the situation without further violence but just maybe some people need a good does of their own medicine. -Shane
amaysngrace Posted July 15, 2006 Posted July 15, 2006 Sometimes out of frustration. By bf is 25 but acts like a little boy. When we get into fights he will actually plug his ears (plug one finger in each ear) like a little brat and say stuff like "I can't hear anything, all I hear is mumbling" or make a bunch of weird noises so he can't hear me talk. And it leads to me getting frustrated because he won't listen to me... No offense but I think you should refrain from having children until you have this under control.
cutegirl Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 No offense but I think you should refrain from having children until you have this under control. I don't ever want kids, I don't want them at all. I'm not the motherly nurturing housewifie type. I guess that's a good thing considering the state of our relationship
journalstar4 Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I don't want kids either and I have never been that much of a nurturer but sorta of like a tomboy. One time in middle school I beat this stupid jerk for name callings (I was 12 and he was 13). Then off course there were also other people I wanted to beat up so badly which includes my older cousin, my brother, a customer at Burger King making me so mad and my ex b/f who I lost already, had no idea it was abuse since I'm a girl. There isn't a day I want him back but it was on the third time I did it (another nose bleed) that he left for good, been broken up since the beginning of April and I dunno if there's still hope left. Needless to say I went crazy that day he broke up. I now would start drinking with friends to get so wasted. Was at this friend's house and well did threw me after got into a physical confrontation with my friend's neighbor, throw the wine bottle on their window, almost hitting the couple, it missed a few ft. Seriously do still want him back if there was any way, I keep wondering if there's still hope.
Craig Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I don't want kids either and I have never been that much of a nurturer but sorta of like a tomboy. One time in middle school I beat this stupid jerk for name callings (I was 12 and he was 13). Then off course there were also other people I wanted to beat up so badly which includes my older cousin, my brother, a customer at Burger King making me so mad and my ex b/f who I lost already, had no idea it was abuse since I'm a girl. There isn't a day I want him back but it was on the third time I did it (another nose bleed) that he left for good, been broken up since the beginning of April and I dunno if there's still hope left. Needless to say I went crazy that day he broke up. I now would start drinking with friends to get so wasted. Was at this friend's house and well did threw me after got into a physical confrontation with my friend's neighbor, throw the wine bottle on their window, almost hitting the couple, it missed a few ft. Seriously do still want him back if there was any way, I keep wondering if there's still hope. What have you done to actively work on your anger management/impulse control issues?
journalstar4 Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I gotta say you're right, I have done hardly anything but kept praying that he would come back as he was my first b/f. A few days after the break-up, I would get very wasted and drunkenly called him that I didn't make sense what I was saying and he was like "Ah you're drunk again?" and then hang up. As for the drinking, I have stopped but now I kinda isolated myself from friends and I don't even feel like working nor studying, I just want him back. I'm on my way of getting helped, taking anger management classes and hopefully he'll come back, I really love this guy.
Craig Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I'm on my way of getting helped, taking anger management classes and hopefully he'll come back, I really love this guy.Are you saying that you are taking anger management classes right now?
Becoming Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Jounral--Were you abused at some time in your past? This could explain all the anger. If so, dealing with that traumatic event that you were helpless to do anything about at the time will help. It doesn't sound like your issues are about the xbf as much as they are about your past and not knowing how to deal with it.
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