PinkPippaCat Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Had a short lived affair with a guy I used to work with about 3 years ago. Nothing went massively wrong - it just kinda fizzled out - but we have kept in touch as casual friends, email/MSN each other, see each other out occasionally etc. All VERY civilised basically and, other than those first few nights, nothing sexual happened again, though has always been an undertone of unresolved issues between us. In the interim, he has got a girlfriend who he says he likes, who has just gone to Australia for 2 months. He's not gone as can't afford time off work. Bumped into him last Friday. Both of us worse for wear and he starts coming onto me - REALLY coming on to me (kissing, groping etc) - in this club. Ended up going home with him (I did try to be good and put him in spare room but that didn't work!) Anyway, nothing really happened that night - just feel sleep together but when woke up in the morning had sex (bad, hungover, feeling ill sex admittedly!) a couple of times but both of us definitely sober! (He doesn't remember meeting me in the club btw - first thing he remembers is waking up at mine the following morning...) He felt guilty about his girlfriend (although I am wondering what she might be up to in Aus...) but she has only been away less than a week and he has already taken the first opportunity... All seems to be fine with our friendship as been chatting with him online today but I am little worried as Fri has made me realise that I still like him. What do I do? Should I say something? Leave it? See what happens? Other complication is that I am moving to Africa in a few weeks but am thinking that, as I am not going to be around for long and that, as his girlfriend is away, being sex buddies would mean I get sex over the summer and he s not cheating with randoms. Is this really wrong though? If not, how do I suggest it?!? Can't believe I am actually planning this as would NEVER intentionally sleep with a guy with a girlfriend before now... Ps - feel free to slag me off as realise I am probably an awful, awful person...
dancehead Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Is it me but are women getting more and more like us blokes? It used to be a guy thing to think of ones sexual needs and put it above everything else. A guy thing to want a sex friend or non - comittal sex. Women didn't do that. These days there seems to be loads of women worried about having a sexual dry spell. I don't understand it, because a woman can generally go out and find someone to have sex with whenever they want (if they wanted to) Whereas for a bloke its harder to do that. I hope I haven't upset anyone here. PippaCat hes done the deed now and so have you. Doesn't sound like he is very solid with the gf so you might as well get on with it for the few weeks you are here if thats what you want. Is it just sex or are there other things about him that draw you to him? Why him and not anyone else?
Guest Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 I'm a female and quite frankly, can't imagine making sex such a priority in my life. I've never just been "f*ck buddies" with someone simply because I wanted sex. Today's women do act more like men. I'm not one of them, however.
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